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| Rleon | Jul 4 2009, 02:41 AM Post #21 |
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Bro Ming, i know hw u feel abt the "ai jiu shi ai" mentality... i shared the same thoughts too... hahaha.. i guess dats life.. Dont regret wat u hv done in the past.. since u realised ur mistakes, why dont you cherish the future.. By giving up wat ever u hve now dosent makes you a better husband or father cos it alrdi took place.. put it this way... if you all of a sudden give up all your interest and hobby, u think will make you wife happy?? make ur kids proud?? anwser is no lor.. worst it may make them worry y ur sudden change in character.. since u knw u ve been neglecting ur wife n kids, y not take some time n effort to make it up to them?? buy something ur wife like on ur next pay day... or toys or gadget for your kids... may not always be for yourself mah.. as for your hobby, u cn still do it during ur free time mah... dnt wori, the dri clad wont grow spider web lor... hahaha.. IMHO - life is short.. dont live in the past, cherish your future.. happiness is one thing money cant buy, for alpha, all you need is master card... hahaha spend more quality time wif your wife n kids cos i guess most of the time we take them for granted.. still dont understand?? we shall chat over a few soap water this sunday when i go drink driving... |
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| ongl | Jul 4 2009, 02:48 AM Post #22 |
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You are getting more mature in your thinking but perhaps doing it rather to the extreme. Giving up doesn't mean giving it ALL up. Otherwise, you will only regret again later on. I like the way you think that it is not all about you but also the wife and the children, then again including you - yourself. You'll need a bit of space for yourself. Why don't keep the whatever you have and as long you don't buy more? It is the same, isn't it from what you've done in the past 1 year. Still got DSLR to shoot without spending more rather selling then later wants a new system altogether ![]() Decision is yours, we can only give morale support. |
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| Excel-glsi | Jul 4 2009, 04:48 AM Post #23 |
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I am sorry to put u (Ming) thru this but I glad I did... Also I am very happy to hear you say what:" I wan is not wat I wan". Spending more time with ur family u must. Also from the day 1 I koe u, I had ben seem saying wat good wife u had. Is true its payback time from u to her. My point here is not to do anything rush... Like u sold off a few of ur ZC lenses and regret later. Keep watever lenses u got. As Bulldog say we bring the subject to u... So how?
Edited by Excel-glsi, Jul 4 2009, 04:49 AM.
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| Mr.Oink | Jul 4 2009, 05:22 AM Post #24 |
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Think is like mid life crisis..oh well....I think everyone will walk thru this path eventually...asking "What do i want with my life" FAMILY will always be the one's top priority , however rather then giving up a hobby entirely why not try to work on your time management. Maybe can try to work on your "needs n wants" ![]() If photography and gadgets is what U like, I doubt you wife will be happy to see you giving them up! She will definitely be happy that you are sparing a thought for spending more time with your them. Work out with your wife, ask her to set some ground rules for u, maybe once a month u can go for shooting...quarterly for a tech gadgets upgrade.... Life is full of changes, life is short, rather spending time regretting them, try to get the best out of them! Definitely a WIN WIN situation:) Cheers~ for the people and thing we love! |
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| bulldog | Jul 4 2009, 07:36 AM Post #25 |
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hi ming, if you notice that you have neglected your love ones, it is still not too late to realise it. like what the rest have mentioned.. its not the end of days.. no need to give up anything la.. you just need to cherish what you have now.. but hor.. if you selling ur alpha, i hope first hor... hhahaha.. i going to the formula drift now.. wanna come anot? |
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| marah | Jul 4 2009, 08:24 AM Post #26 |
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Bro Ming, u wun find the solution here ![]() Wat u should do is, take ur wife out for dinner(just the 2 of u) and talk about it. Tell her wat u really feel and i'm sure she will help in ur decision and tats wat matter most
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| Eclipse | Jul 4 2009, 12:32 PM Post #27 |
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I definitely agree with marah. Don't deal this thing by yourself alone. Your best answer lies with your wife / family which will enlighten you more than us here. Being your wife happy for you, is the best setup to be with her alone and talk things out. Women are created to either make or destroy her man - we seen these a million times. Giving up something for the better may be bitter for a while but if that intention if pure, sincere and faithful - it is worth it in a long run. But one must verify your feelings, and really understand the situation holistically then make a decision collectively (with your wife). Try to relax and take things slow. Maybe it will help you make your decisions. By the look of your work - seems like you're really busy making money man. Cheer up. E |
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| FrederickYKFoo | Jul 4 2009, 01:13 PM Post #28 |
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Hi Bro Ming, It is hard to be happily married and be a Singapore Male to enjoy all the Tech Toys & whatever other toys out there. It is said girls give up their Barbie Dolls when they grown up @ 16 Boy, never grown up. Their toys gets bigger, louder & more expensive. Frankly, I admire fellows bros able to go outing weekly shooting or TCSS. Everyday, I see my neighbours' males drink beer & talk in the common area everyday. Always ask myself why I am so busy with work & family every week. At the end of the day, family is most important to everyone. They will stay with you till you leave this world. Beside spending time with them, buys things for them especially your wife. If you do not know what to buy, like me, go shopping with them or just give them money & ask her to shop with her sisters or friends while you take cares the kids. As for whatever you have, no point selling them all as many cannot be bought back even you have the money. Keep them. Use them whenever you are free. I still have many of my Contax equipment......... You can cut down but not @ one go. Sell some you do not use at all & keep those better ones especially the Zeiss & G. If you are selling your Zeiss let me know. It is good you realise now before it is too late. There is always time as long you are alive & healthy. Enjoy your family & your hobby together. That makes the full and complete you. Photography is one hobby you can put away and come back to it again. ( Been doing that many time in my life ) Family have to spend time daily. They are important always. Take it slow & make the right moves. Good luck. |
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| yannh | Jul 4 2009, 01:21 PM Post #29 |
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Hi Bro Ming, I definitely agree with Eclipse. Don't do extreme things, men are not designed just to satisfy their women, haha! I have seen people coming from the other extreme, in the end they are not happy either. So giving up everything you have is NOT a long term solution. Edited by yannh, Jul 4 2009, 01:22 PM.
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| blackcadillac73 | Jul 4 2009, 02:12 PM Post #30 |
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All things in moderation Ming. Don't give up your photography hobby as you know yourself only too well how you will miss it after you've sold everything. I think you're like the mascot for Alphadslr. If you're gone, this forum is not going to be the same. Perhaps you can bring your family for a vacation soon when your schedule is less busy. Perhaps even leave your camera at home and just spend time with them during the trip. No need anywhere far ... even nearby countries or islands would do. A little family bonding time. Your family has definitely been supportive of your hobby in the past. Perhaps payback time is in order. |
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