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| De-escalation of Interpersonal Violence; Oakland, November 1, 2011 | |
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| Occupy Support | Dec 15 2011, 11:45 PM Post #1 |
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The stance to take, the tone of voice to use, and whether or not and how to use eye contact and touch, all vary depending on which one of four flavors of violence (fear, frustration, manipulation, intimidation) I discern in the person in front of me. Fear - My goal is to reduce this person's perception of threat.
Frustration may be acted-out as anger [male pattern] or acted-in as self-abuse [female pattern]. My goal is to bring this person's behavior under control (harm reduction).
Manipulation - My goal is detachment.
Intimidation of another (bullying) - My goal is consequation.
We could tear this apart and declare it unacceptable for the nonviolent activist. Judgments, judgments, judgments! And whatever happened to prioritizing connection? But first I would remind you that when violence is in progress, the harm reduction agenda preempts our personal agenda, and we may find ourselves called in the moment to use force in ways that we deeply regret. The above is just a proposed blueprint for how to use force most effectively. |
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