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Mr Nice Guy
Topic Started: Nov 29 2013, 04:19 PM (107 Views)
johnny5ive
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I've taken a lot of heat from a lot of people all of my life for being and asshole. I know that I am not "A Peach" as Tim would say. I am not diplomatic, I don't turn the other cheek, bite my tongue, let things go, be the bigger person, etc. It's no secret that these qualities have caused a lot of confrontation in my life, and for the most part I'm ok with it because it was always easier for me to sleep at night knowing that people hated me for my views, opinion, actions, etc, than it was if I'd let someone take advantage of me, get the best of me, talk shit without consequence, etc... Well, times change and I've been doing a lot of thinking about it lately, and I'm starting to question the decision to try and "set the record straight", "put someone in their place", "defend my honor", etc, all the things that in the past I've set no limit to how far I'd go in order to stand my ground. The issue now has become time and effort. I've probably wasted a lot of time on douchebags, idiots, and shit-talkers in an attempt to help them see the light and the reality has set in that I can not fix the world and it's a waste of time trying. I'd rather spend the time and effort on my children then some spineless, honorless, brainless, person whom I could give 2 shits about... My wife, my parents, my friends have all tried for years to persuade me to change my way of thinking, but at the end of the day I am who I am and when I'm in the heat of it I simply do not have the self control or discipline to just let it go. It's like asking a wolf who hasn't eaten in 2 weeks to behave himself in a room full of rabbits... it's just not my nature... I have a great deal of respect for guys who have mild tempers, who are easy going, respectable, etc and wish that I was one of them. I've tried many times to change my ways and become a better person and although I can say that I am a better person today than I was a decade ago, I still feel like with regards to those issues I haven't made much progress... Don't get me wrong, I don't consider myself a bad person. I feel like I'm about as honest as they come, will bend over backwards to help people, am a good father and husband, friend, etc, but I still feel like I'm lacking in my ability to "be nice". Well, let me qualify that statement... I REALLY NICE to people that are polite, respectful, have manners and know better than to shoot their mouth off about something when they have no idea what they're talking about, or who make promises and don't follow through with that cause others grief, etc. I am not nice to these people because I don't feel like they've earned it. I feel like they need to have their ass handed to them in order to teach them a lesson and prevent them from walking around like a bull in a china shop causing the world all sorts of grief. I am contemplating how I am going to approach this new goal of mine to become "Mr Nice Guy". I've spoken to Bob Dunn and Jack Rogers at great length about this because I look up to them and consider them to be wise and respectable and have asked for their advice. They were very open to helping me and offered some some very wise perspectives on the subject and I have been trying to apply some of that wisdom, but so far have been failing miserably. I guess the only reason I'm posting this up is so that I have publicly shared a personal goal and that usually helps me achieve my goals, because failing is something I'm not too comfortable with. The last thing my dear friend David Hicks said to me about 24 hours before he killed himself was that he always admired me because I didn't accept failure as an option. I honestly wish I was nice and I'm going to make a serious effort, no bullshit. I'm going to try and do things contradictory to my nature and I don't expect it to be very easy, but not trying is accepting failure. Welcome to the show, feel free to rag my ass however you'd like if you catch me slacking off on my goal to become "Mr Nice Guy"... Yeah Tim, I already know, you don't even have to say it, but go right ahead, it'll be good for a few laughs and I could use a good one myself...
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zudorf
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I know not of this person you call "Tim".....I am Zudorf!
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John, I really enjoyed our conversation the other night. I hope you know you call call me anytime and it does not have to pertain to ISUZU either...

As I see it, you are a great father, husband and friend. Your children are some of the most respectful, well spoken kids I have met in a long while, and I see that as a reflection of you, and your wife.

Keep your head up brother.

cheers
-Ian
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X2 what Ian said.

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