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Topic Started: Mar 6 2018, 08:52 AM (8,124 Views)
Bailey
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Kitty has a vet appt today. I taught quite a few lessons yesterday, so I can do this without a credit card. I'll let you know what he/she says about the situation.

I have an interested family for the dog. They are calling me tomorrow, but I'm still going to mention it to the vet in case it isn't the right fit.

The guy I've been seeing is getting "the talk" today. I haven't mentioned him because that always seems to jinx things. He's a wonderful man, and I'm concerned I'll regret breaking things off with him. I just don't feel the spark like I did, and it's only been 6 weeks. He's a reasonable guy but I'm still doing this via phone/text. The last guy taught me that important lesson.

I cleaned and organized the entire downstairs yesterday. We can thank the cat for peeing on my rug since that motivated me to clean allll the things.

I've outsourced my webpage to a local mom friend who is experienced with this sort of thing. I'm exchanging music lessons for her services. We're meeting Friday.

Simplify. Simplify. Simplify.
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That all sounds good Bailey, even the guy thing. It's better to be alone than with someone for the sake of it. I admire you so much. You just keep moving forward no matter what.
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Very in awe of you and all have have accomplished. You a very strong and very tenacious, which is a good thing! ;)
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Bailey
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That was the best break up I've ever had. We were both respectful and reasonable. It almost makes me want to reconsider. šŸ˜‚

Off to the vet. Wish me luck!
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Your journey is fantastic, W! If there was a Poster Woman for "Keep Pushing Forward" it would be you. :wub:
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loomatic
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Wow, you're really getting a handle on things!

Can I suggest a possible teaching opportunity? (Tough, I'm going to). See if you can offer music classes to homeschool kids. You could pick one day a week, or certain times of the day, whatever works for you. Check the library for the different homeschool curricula, and create classes around them. There's probably some homeschool organization in your area.
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Look at you! Gettin' shit done!
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greenbean
Mar 6 2018, 08:55 AM
That all sounds good Bailey, even the guy thing. It's better to be alone than with someone for the sake of it. I admire you so much. You just keep moving forward no matter what.
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Good luck at the vet!
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loomatic
Mar 6 2018, 09:49 AM
Wow, you're really getting a handle on things!

Can I suggest a possible teaching opportunity? (Tough, I'm going to). See if you can offer music classes to homeschool kids. You could pick one day a week, or certain times of the day, whatever works for you. Check the library for the different homeschool curricula, and create classes around them. There's probably some homeschool organization in your area.
What a great idea!

Bailey, I'm proud of you. Not in a weird way; in the good way.
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Way to go! You're getting all the things done!
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Mar 6 2018, 10:20 AM
loomatic
Mar 6 2018, 09:49 AM
Wow, you're really getting a handle on things!

Can I suggest a possible teaching opportunity? (Tough, I'm going to). See if you can offer music classes to homeschool kids. You could pick one day a week, or certain times of the day, whatever works for you. Check the library for the different homeschool curricula, and create classes around them. There's probably some homeschool organization in your area.
What a great idea!

Bailey, I'm proud of you. Not in a weird way; in the good way.
And she's a sexy bitch!

Rock it, Bailey!
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Bailey
Mar 6 2018, 09:47 AM
That was the best break up I've ever had. We were both respectful and reasonable. It almost makes me want to reconsider. šŸ˜‚

Off to the vet. Wish me luck!
I know this will sound cheesy, but maybe you can remain friends with him. You can never have to many friends, and he sounds like he would be a good friend.
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Name Stolen
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WTG, Bailey!

Did I miss the story about the last break up?
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Way to go Bailey! I bet it feels good to get stuff accomplished!
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Mar 6 2018, 10:35 AM
WTG, Bailey!

Did I miss the story about the last break up?


IIRC there was a date the guy was completely hammered and stuffed his hand down the back of Bailey's pants, in public. That was the last date.
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Mar 6 2018, 10:27 AM
Edna
Mar 6 2018, 10:20 AM
loomatic
Mar 6 2018, 09:49 AM
Wow, you're really getting a handle on things!

Can I suggest a possible teaching opportunity? (Tough, I'm going to). See if you can offer music classes to homeschool kids. You could pick one day a week, or certain times of the day, whatever works for you. Check the library for the different homeschool curricula, and create classes around them. There's probably some homeschool organization in your area.
What a great idea!

Bailey, I'm proud of you. Not in a weird way; in the good way.
And she's a sexy bitch!

Rock it, Bailey!
+10000
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Bailey
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What a wonderful vet! I explained the situation and she helped me formulate a plan. We’re just going to treat this as an infection without all of the testing. The vet visit and treatment will be less than $100, which is doable. I’m spending the day de-peeing my house and will monitor the situation closely in the coming weeks. Then I’ll be able to make an informed decision about what to do with her.
Thanks for all of the advice with this, Peeps. ā™„ļø
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Mar 6 2018, 11:16 AM
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Mar 6 2018, 10:35 AM
WTG, Bailey!

Did I miss the story about the last break up?


IIRC there was a date the guy was completely hammered and stuffed his hand down the back of Bailey's pants, in public. That was the last date.
That happened, but he’s not the one you’re thinking of, NS. I dated an incredibly calm and peaceful man for a few weeks. Things fell into the friend zone, so I felt I owed him a face to face conversation. Ha! He was furious and did not handle things well. I was fortunate to get him out of my house before it sunk in for him. It taught me some very important lessons in safety and how people react to rejection. Some key phrases for your entertainment:
ā€œYou’re a horrible person and you should feel bad! I could have died!ā€ (he had to drive home in the snow)
ā€œBye bye, bitch!ā€
And my personal favorite, ā€œYou’re just going to turn back to the bottle and then your life will be FUCKED!ā€

All of this from a practicing Buddhist who had shown zero signs of violent tendencies.
Edited by Bailey, Mar 6 2018, 11:45 AM.
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Wow, Bailey! I'm glad you're shut of him.

You are really rocking along. I think you should be very proud of yourself for handling all the challenges that have been coming your way.
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Mar 6 2018, 11:43 AM
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Mar 6 2018, 11:16 AM
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Mar 6 2018, 10:35 AM
WTG, Bailey!

Did I miss the story about the last break up?


IIRC there was a date the guy was completely hammered and stuffed his hand down the back of Bailey's pants, in public. That was the last date.
That happened, but he’s not the one you’re thinking of, NS. I dated an incredibly calm and peaceful man for a few weeks. Things fell into the friend zone, so I felt I owed him a face to face conversation. Ha! He was furious and did not handle things well. I was fortunate to get him out of my house before it sunk in for him. It taught me some very important lessons in safety and how people react to rejection. Some key phrases for your entertainment:
ā€œYou’re a horrible person and you should feel bad! I could have died!ā€ (he had to drive home in the snow)
ā€œBye bye, bitch!ā€
And my personal favorite, ā€œYou’re just going to turn back to the bottle and then your life will be FUCKED!ā€

All of this from a practicing Buddhist who had shown zero signs of violent tendencies.
Geez! That guy was off his rocker!
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I don't post much but I have followed your story, it sounds like you are taking all the right steps to get your life in order and achieve some serenity and true happiness.


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This is great news! You are awesome and your vet is awesome.
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Mar 6 2018, 12:01 PM
I don't post much but I have followed your story, it sounds like you are taking all the right steps to get your life in order and achieve some serenity and true happiness.


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Bailey
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Thanks, Peeps! Onward and upward.
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Yay Bailey! I'm glad the vet is willing to work with you. Here's hoping it fixes the cats issues!

I also hope you find a good home for your dog. She's a purebred Newfie, right? I imagine it would be easy to find her a good family. I've always thought they were really sweet and cute (I just can't handle the slobber) lol.
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You're doing great, Bailey! And still proudly sporting your star, I see, which means you haven't had any setbacks in the pants department, either. :wub:
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Mar 6 2018, 12:46 PM
You're doing great, Bailey! And still proudly sporting your star, I see, which means you haven't had any setbacks in the pants department, either. :wub:
Omg this made me laugh so hard! No one has noticed just how long I’ve gone without a white pants moment. Thank you for acknowledging this achievement! šŸ˜‚
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Glad that your vet is working with you. As a person who owned a cat with a peeing problem, I recommend a mix of peroxide and baking soda with a few drops of dawn. I found that it worked better for me than the enzyme cleaners. But I don't know about carpet or fabric, it might bleach it. Worked great on old hardwood.

And deterring the outside cats would help too.
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I spoke with the woman who is interested in the Newf. She seemed really great and had all the right answers. I’m going to take Rosie over to their house on Saturday afternoon. She mentioned that her husband had to play a service that afternoon, so I asked what she meant. Her husband is an organist and we have two mutual friends! I’ve already contacted one of them, and she said that Rosie couldn’t be going to a better family.

I spent the day cleaning carpets and washing litter pans. The cat peed on the front hallway runner today, so I’m feeling more and more discouraged. I now have three beautiful area rugs rolled up in my garage waiting for bulk pick up.

So things are moving along...
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I'm sure you feel much better knowing Newf is going to a good family. I'm sure the dog will be happy there. You are doing an amazing job of getting things cleared out and manageable for you. You really are an inspiration.
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Can you just have the rugs cleaned?
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Mar 8 2018, 12:49 AM
Can you just have the rugs cleaned?
The smell of cat urine really never goes away and it’s not something I’m willing to risk as the music studio starts up. The last thing I need is to have a reputation for a smelly house. I’ll have to replace the upstairs carpet at sone point too, but that’s not in the budget at this time.
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Kitty question: she has had no accidents since I cleaned the carpets and put a litter box upstairs. But now she only uses the litter box that is upstairs. Anyone have any guesses as to why?
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Bailey
Mar 9 2018, 11:51 AM
Kitty question: she has had no accidents since I cleaned the carpets and put a litter box upstairs. But now she only uses the litter box that is upstairs. Anyone have any guesses as to why?
Don't you have a favorite toilet?
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Maybe that's what she was trying to communicate, that she wanted a box upstairs. Fingered crossed that's your fix!
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Bailey
Mar 9 2018, 11:51 AM
Kitty question: she has had no accidents since I cleaned the carpets and put a litter box upstairs. But now she only uses the litter box that is upstairs. Anyone have any guesses as to why?
It's new. I wouldn't touch the others in case the novelty wears off.
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Maybe upstairs has fewer strangers in it? She feels safer there?
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Mar 9 2018, 03:38 PM
Maybe upstairs has fewer strangers in it? She feels safer there?
That is an interesting theory and something I hadn’t considered. She has never appeared to be frazzled by people coming and going, so that never occurred to me. Thank you!
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If she had experienced some kind of pain using the old litterbox, even a temporary discomfort, she would have associated the pain with the box. It's fairly typical cat logic.

Good luck with the new box, hopefully she's found her new lavatory of choice!
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I met with the potential family for Rosie today. They weren't as excited as I had hoped, and it didn't seem like they appreciated her enough. They also have a small house and tiny unfenced yard. They also seemed concerned with some of the costs involved.

Aqua sent me some contact information for a Newfie rescue in my area, so that is going to be my next step.

Thank you for your guidance on this, Peeps. I hate making this decision alone, so it is incredibly helpful to talk through this process with all of you.
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I don't know how to say this without sounding weird but I'm glad you screened the family. They don't sound like a good fit, especially if they are hesitant about costs associated with a dog. That would be a big red flag for me.

I'm also glad youre looking at a rescue. Rosie seems like a sweet dog, she's good with small children and cats (I assume) and I bet the rescue could find her a good home, she's very adoptable.
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Are there more costs involved with your dog than with a typical dog?
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Mar 10 2018, 04:28 PM
Are there more costs involved with your dog than with a typical dog?
She's my first dog, so I have nothing to compare it to.
But her routine vet visits are usually $400 (that includes flea and heart worm medication). Grooming is a big job, so outsourcing it costs $100/bath.
She eats 8 cups of food a day.
Boarding is difficult due to her size. She needs the largest room they have.
And as she ages, she is going to develop health problems that will likely be very expensive.


Allday, I agree. I thought maybe this would just work out, but it's not the right situation and I'm ok with telling them that.
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Bailey
Mar 10 2018, 04:37 PM
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Mar 10 2018, 04:28 PM
Are there more costs involved with your dog than with a typical dog?
She's my first dog, so I have nothing to compare it to.
But her routine vet visits are usually $400 (that includes flea and heart worm medication). Grooming is a big job, so outsourcing it costs $100/bath.
She eats 8 cups of food a day.
Boarding is difficult due to her size. She needs the largest room they have.
And as she ages, she is going to develop health problems that will likely be very expensive.


Allday, I agree. I thought maybe this would just work out, but it's not the right situation and I'm ok with telling them that.
I would expect most of those costs for a typical dog, and it's fairly obvious a dog that large will require more food and grooming. It sounds like a Newfie rescue is the way to go, since people adopting through them probably have experience or knowledge about the breed. I wouldn't want to give her to a family that wasn't enthusiastic, either!
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That sounds like routine care expenses to me.

I would expect the grooming to be a given with that breed. I'm actually surprised it's not more!

Hopefully you gave that family some insight not only what it's like to own a dog but the breed as well. Maybe theyll recognize that either a dog is not for them or that the breed isn't for them.
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Hugs Bailey. You are doing great.
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Rosie’s breeder hooked me up with a woman who is interested in an adult Newf. She currently lives in FL, but wants to relocate to northern Ohio or southern Michigan to be closer to family. She’s owned Newfs for 20 years and is now retired and looking for a play mate for her 3 year old neutered Newf. She has filled out an application with the breeder, so she obviously thinks she’s a suitable owner.
I have yet to contact her. I mean, this doesn’t sound like it would be happening soon. She doesn’t even know which state she’ll be living in. Plus my mom texted me earlier and mentioned that their pastor would love to have her. They have had Newfs for years and live down the street from my parents. I’ve known them for 25 years and know that they would be an excellent home. I may contact the breeder and see what she thinks. My mom is visiting this week and could bring her back with her. I’ll also be driving to Michigan in two weeks with the kids for spring break, so that could work too.
Thoughts?

The cat is still peeing. I received a call from our local humane society (I had called asking for advice). They have an open space and said I could bring her in tomorrow when they open at 2.
I had a friend try to post the flyer for me on local sites, but none of them allowed the selling of animals.
I feel like I’ve done what I could and now I just have to hope that she gets adopted. They have a 95% rate of adoptable pets, so I’m thinking of omitting the peeing issue. Ugh. I don’t know what to do here.

For my own mental health this needs to happen soon. I can’t go on in limbo like this. It’s not fair to me or the kids.

Thoughts?
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How would you feel about the Humane Society contacting you if an adoption falls through? You would be a fail safe, of sorts?
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Puppy to the pastor so you can see her when you go home!
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Mar 13 2018, 07:52 PM
How would you feel about the Humane Society contacting you if an adoption falls through? You would be a fail safe, of sorts?
That’s a great thought! Although wouldn’t they hesitate to give an animal back to the very owner who surrendered it? I don’t know how that works.

I like this plan because it gives her a chance while keeping my house clean.
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