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Topic Started: Apr 4 2018, 01:47 AM (3,409 Views)
Aqua
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Best comment on the (now locked) thread: “Make a split second decision to bring home a smoker.” 😂 🥓
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Designing Craft Maven
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My husband and I like pigs okay, but bringing one home is a hard "NO".
It would be going.
There are things you can bring home without discussing. Tacos. You can bring home tacos. Not a pig. I mean if we lived in the country and already had pigs and you brought home another pig? No biggie. But things rarely end well for impulse pigs.
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The only pig I'm ok with being brought home sans consultations is already in bacon form thanks.
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Annabelle (avatar) is a Jack Russell Terrier. She is a better mouser than the cats. She lunges at the window and wines every time she sees a squirrel or rabbit or cat. But she has no prey drive when it comes to my cats. She and Tiger play, but she never has anything to do with Snickers. I don't think she knows they are cats. Every time I say cat when referring to them, she goes to the window and whines.

BTW, if I had a SO and he brought home a pig, that would be the last thing he ever did.
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If my DH brought home a pig, he wouldn't have to worry about feeding it. He'd be fed to it.
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Apr 5 2018, 11:35 AM
My husband and I like pigs okay, but bringing one home is a hard "NO".
It would be going.
There are things you can bring home without discussing. Tacos. You can bring home tacos. Not a pig. I mean if we lived in the country and already had pigs and you brought home another pig? No biggie. But things rarely end well for impulse pigs.
Impulse pig is never a good idea.
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after only reading the op:

If I were the non pig owner and the house was owned by me and not us then I'd be telling her to find a new home for the pig (and or herself also depending on the reaction).

I love animals, but not going to live with a pig.

If she owned the house we were living in then I'd be thinking about if it was a hill to die on and then if it became that I'd be moving.

I believe IF you own pets before getting together those pets need to be accepted IF your relationship is going to work, but that pets acquired after you are together have to be a dual decision.
Edited by NOMANNERSHERE, Apr 5 2018, 02:19 PM.
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NOMANNERSHERE
Apr 5 2018, 02:19 PM
after only reading the op:

If I were the non pig owner and the house was owned by me and not us then I'd be telling her to find a new home for the pig (and or herself also depending on the reaction).

I love animals, but not going to live with a pig.

If she owned the house we were living in then I'd be thinking about if it was a hill to die on and then if it became that I'd be moving.

I believe IF you own pets before getting together those pets need to be accepted IF your relationship is going to work, but that pets acquired after you are together have to be a dual decision.
I just discovered a new deal breaker should I ever start dating again - PET PIGS.
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Apparently I am totally alone in this :$

But I still stand behind my stance that if he does not want to get rid of the pig (which he says in the letter) then there is no point in bringing it up now while she is grieving.


I fully support bringing it up at a later time, when she is in a better place emotionally, that just bringing home a pet (especially such an exotic and high maintenance pet!) without discussing it was fucked up and should never happen again.
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I'd be okay if he went trendy and brought home a deconstructed impluse pig.

Who doesn't like suprise bacon, ham, and sausage?


ETA: NOT THAT KIND OF SAUSAGE!!!
Edited by Sparkle DNA, Apr 5 2018, 02:49 PM.
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Apr 5 2018, 02:49 PM
I'd be okay if he went trendy and brought home a deconstructed impluse pig.

Who doesn't like suprise bacon, ham, and sausage?


ETA: NOT THAT KIND OF SAUSAGE!!!
I usually don't want surprise sausage. I like to know when it's coming. :P
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I can't get on board with the "don't bring it up if you're not going to make her return the pig" contingent. I think at the very least he needs to have a conversation with her about not making significant decisions unilaterally. And I would do it now. Doing it later will just turn into "why are you holding a grudge?"
Edited by jeni_4, Apr 5 2018, 03:03 PM.
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Apr 5 2018, 02:25 PM
Apparently I am totally alone in this :$

But I still stand behind my stance that if he does not want to get rid of the pig (which he says in the letter) then there is no point in bringing it up now while she is grieving.


I fully support bringing it up at a later time, when she is in a better place emotionally, that just bringing home a pet (especially such an exotic and high maintenance pet!) without discussing it was fucked up and should never happen again.
I didn’t read it literally. I read it as more like he feels bad giving up any pet, but. Like, “Nobody wakes up and says they’re going to dump pigs for fun.”

But then again, I’d probably have no qualms about saying, “DUDE. This is a PIG. You can leave with it if you like but it is going. Yesterday.”

I mean...a pig. No.
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You know there was a case somewhere that a family adopted a pig from the human society, then butchered it and ate it? The humane society was not very pleased.

Sad for the pig. I read it on the internet so it must be true....maybe I read it here.
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I know someone with a pet pig. They bought it small and cute under the assumption that it was a "teacup" pig. FF 2 years, the pig is pushing 300lbs. They have to baby proof everything because it can open the pantry/fridge/trash can. It has separation anxiety and destroys things/shits all over if they leave for extended periods. Oh and it's mean. So they can't ever go on vacation because no one will watch their pig. They can't even go out to dinner because the pig will be alone and destroy something (it knocked their tv off the stand and destroyed it when they went to the grocery store, just to give a hint at its destructiveness). Their house is always trashed because the pig figures out new things to get into. But they "lllllurrrrveee" it too much to get rid of it so they're miserable.

With their experience in mind, if I came home and saw DH bought a pig, I would be pissed and tell him he has X days to find it a new home.

I'm editing to say I swear I'm not heartless. I love animals. And I love my spouse so if he went out and bought an animal because he was grieving and impulsive, I would do my best to be kind and empathetic. But having a pig is a hard no for me, DH knows that. If he knew that about me and chose to bring home a pig anyway, I would think he was using his grief as a way to strong arm me into doing something I don't want to do. I'm not saying that's what's going on here though. Reddit is blocked at work so I didn't get to read the article.
Edited by daisy daisy daisy, Apr 5 2018, 03:27 PM.
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Apr 5 2018, 03:15 PM
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Apr 5 2018, 02:25 PM
Apparently I am totally alone in this :$

But I still stand behind my stance that if he does not want to get rid of the pig (which he says in the letter) then there is no point in bringing it up now while she is grieving.


I fully support bringing it up at a later time, when she is in a better place emotionally, that just bringing home a pet (especially such an exotic and high maintenance pet!) without discussing it was fucked up and should never happen again.
I didn’t read it literally. I read it as more like he feels bad giving up any pet, but. Like, “Nobody wakes up and says they’re going to dump pigs for fun.”

But then again, I’d probably have no qualms about saying, “DUDE. This is a PIG. You can leave with it if you like but it is going. Yesterday.”

I mean...a pig. No.
Yeah, it sounded to me like the OP does NOT want this pig and wants it gone, despite being opposed to the idea of sending back pets in general. And he's trying to figure out how to inform his GF that the pig needs to go while being sensitive to her at the same time.
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Apr 4 2018, 02:07 AM
I WAS JUST READING THAT!

And I learned that kunekunes are a type of pig and I have been looking up stuff about them for 15 minutes. I need a kunekune!
I know I am 3 pages late to this, but there are kunekunes in Orlando.

Go to Animal Kingdom, take the train to Rafiki's and the pigs in the conservation station are kunekunes. You can pet them. I have seen different procedures performed on them by the vet staff. CT scans, teeth extraction and a surgical procedure.
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Apr 5 2018, 03:01 PM
I can't get on board with the "don't bring it up if you're not going to make her return the pig" contingent. I think at the very least he needs to have a conversation with her about not making significant decisions unilaterally. And I would do it now. Doing it later will just turn into "why are you holding a grudge?"
I agree. It's not just about whether or not they will keep this pig.
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Aqua
Apr 5 2018, 03:15 PM
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Apr 5 2018, 02:25 PM
Apparently I am totally alone in this :$

But I still stand behind my stance that if he does not want to get rid of the pig (which he says in the letter) then there is no point in bringing it up now while she is grieving.


I fully support bringing it up at a later time, when she is in a better place emotionally, that just bringing home a pet (especially such an exotic and high maintenance pet!) without discussing it was fucked up and should never happen again.
I didn’t read it literally. I read it as more like he feels bad giving up any pet, but. Like, “Nobody wakes up and says they’re going to dump pigs for fun.”

But then again, I’d probably have no qualms about saying, “DUDE. This is a PIG. You can leave with it if you like but it is going. Yesterday.”

I mean...a pig. No.
I read it the same way. He doesn't mean he is going to keep the pig, just that returning an animal is awful and he doesn't want to do it because no one wants to do that.

Either way, yeah he needs to talk to her about it. Even if he's willing to keep the pig he needs to talk to her about future decisions and also about what they need to do now that they have a pet pig :-/
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Apr 4 2018, 10:06 AM
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Apr 4 2018, 09:53 AM
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Apr 4 2018, 09:29 AM
I can't say much. The day we found out dh's brother died I took him to the animal shelter and we ended up with a dog. I thought it would cheer dh up to see the dogs in general and when we found Calli in there I pushed him into getting her.

In my defense it worked, she helped him through his grief and is a huge bright spot for us. He pretty much picked her out.

I don't know what I would do if my SO came home with a baby pig and it wasn't discussed first.
Completely different as you were both there and making the decision together.
Also, dog. Not pig. Dog.

You don't frighten us, English pig-dogs!

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Go and boil your bottoms, sons of a silly person!
And I fart in your generaille direction.
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Yeah, urban pigs stink for all concerned.
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Also, a quick search shows depending on the breed a pig can live anywhere from 5-25 years. It's a living creature and not something you just go "Okay! Now we have a pet pig and will never travel without an experienced pig sitter being available, and we'll never move anywhere that can't accommodate a pig and we'll have savings for special veterinary care for the pig oh well this is our life now!"

This isn't a case of her getting really upset about her father and drinking more than she should, or spending more money than they can afford, or even buying a new car. This is a years long commitment to an animal. People shouldn't just go get barn animals, or any animal, they really need to research first.

Hell, Bear wants a guinea pig and we are hesitant to commit to that until we are confident that we know what it's needs are and can meet them without resentment.
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I agree that it does indeed go deeper than an impulse pig.
Lack of communication, planning and forethought, really will create long term issues in a relationship. Impulse spending as a way of dealing with emotions can create a lot of stress. Financial planning and goals need to be discussed and purchases that impact your overall lifestyle are also must discuss kinds of things.

I just don't even know how one comes across an impulse pig opportunity without actively searching for one.
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I know I've mentioned the neighbor's pigs on different threads and even started one about them (theoretical pigs). I was pissed, concerned( fed them) and revolted (smell) for the whole time that they were here. Now they are gone and a big " Whew" was heard throughout the neighborhood, did I mention the smell? They have said they won't be doing that again. Yay.

My biggest beef against pigs (not their fault) was as toddler in Bozeman, Montana (the 50's) was that the cowboys down the road (we were free range) thought it would be real funny to put a small indian girl (PC here) on the back of a porker and set it loose. Don't know who screamed louder, me or the pig. Of course there was much merriment from the audience. I didn't fall off though.
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I have had so much run reading this thread that I somehow missed last week.

Urban Pig!

Impulse Pig!


:wub:



edit: I realize that I don't know anyone who has had a pig for a pet. Maybe a pot-bellied one years ago when they were popular (?) I am going to have to find out. But no way could I deal with one. They are outside animals for us!
Edited by FarmMa, Apr 11 2018, 03:55 PM.
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jeni_4
Apr 5 2018, 03:01 PM
I can't get on board with the "don't bring it up if you're not going to make her return the pig" contingent. I think at the very least he needs to have a conversation with her about not making significant decisions unilaterally. And I would do it now. Doing it later will just turn into "why are you holding a grudge?"
Yeah. I think there are ways to bring it up that are better, like--"I'm not advocating getting rid of it, but I would have really liked an opportunity to discuss the pig before we got the pig, please don't get another pet without talking it over with me."

Because...not speaking up about the impulse pig is how you end up with impulse donkey.
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Apr 11 2018, 04:23 PM
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Apr 5 2018, 03:01 PM
I can't get on board with the "don't bring it up if you're not going to make her return the pig" contingent. I think at the very least he needs to have a conversation with her about not making significant decisions unilaterally. And I would do it now. Doing it later will just turn into "why are you holding a grudge?"
Yeah. I think there are ways to bring it up that are better, like--"I'm not advocating getting rid of it, but I would have really liked an opportunity to discuss the pig before we got the pig, please don't get another pet without talking it over with me."

Because...not speaking up about the impulse pig is how you end up with impulse donkey.
:D

There is no end to the possible impulse pets!!
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Apr 11 2018, 04:23 PM
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Apr 5 2018, 03:01 PM
I can't get on board with the "don't bring it up if you're not going to make her return the pig" contingent. I think at the very least he needs to have a conversation with her about not making significant decisions unilaterally. And I would do it now. Doing it later will just turn into "why are you holding a grudge?"
Yeah. I think there are ways to bring it up that are better, like--"I'm not advocating getting rid of it, but I would have really liked an opportunity to discuss the pig before we got the pig, please don't get another pet without talking it over with me."

Because...not speaking up about the impulse pig is how you end up with impulse donkey.
Impulse ass is considered by some to be a good thing! B-)
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Apr 11 2018, 04:28 PM
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Apr 11 2018, 04:23 PM
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Apr 5 2018, 03:01 PM
I can't get on board with the "don't bring it up if you're not going to make her return the pig" contingent. I think at the very least he needs to have a conversation with her about not making significant decisions unilaterally. And I would do it now. Doing it later will just turn into "why are you holding a grudge?"
Yeah. I think there are ways to bring it up that are better, like--"I'm not advocating getting rid of it, but I would have really liked an opportunity to discuss the pig before we got the pig, please don't get another pet without talking it over with me."

Because...not speaking up about the impulse pig is how you end up with impulse donkey.
:D

There is no end to the possible impulse pets!!
:wub:
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Apr 11 2018, 04:23 PM
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Apr 5 2018, 03:01 PM
I can't get on board with the "don't bring it up if you're not going to make her return the pig" contingent. I think at the very least he needs to have a conversation with her about not making significant decisions unilaterally. And I would do it now. Doing it later will just turn into "why are you holding a grudge?"
Yeah. I think there are ways to bring it up that are better, like--"I'm not advocating getting rid of it, but I would have really liked an opportunity to discuss the pig before we got the pig, please don't get another pet without talking it over with me."

Because...not speaking up about the impulse pig is how you end up with impulse donkey.
So pigs are the gateway pet? :D
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The PO's post never said what kind of pig. I'm not going to assume that it's a potbellied. As when ex was in college, the cook he worked with had a pet hog , about 600 pounds or so named Duchess. And since my family did raise a hog or beef or both for meat in the freezer...I can readily say...NO to a hog or a baby pig. I'm assuming a 'baby' pig's shit smells like the adults, and I can't tolerate hog shit. Beef shit or sheep shit is not the coolest, but I can tolerate it better. And dog shit, cat shit, and human shit, all 3 are raunchy!
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