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Topic Started: Apr 12 2018, 04:58 PM (1,009 Views)
ft12
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Got invited to a wedding in Mexico for next Feb, I'm in the bridal party.

They sent out a price list today - package prices are FOURTEEN DAYS with the wedding on the last day.

Who the hell has two weeks for a wedding!?!

I am going (but not for 14 days) and I am arriving the day before the wedding, bride is not happy as she wanted "everyone together to bond" well if you want to pay for me then that's all good but if it's my vacation I'm going to do it on the days I want to go.

Nope. Nope, so many nopes!

1. I'm not giving up an entire years vacation days for your wedding.
2. I am the only single woman going and the grooms friends are gross leeches.
3. I'm not going to an all you can eat all you can drink place then being in wedding photos on the last full day, are you CRAZY!
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I could see arriving a couple days before the wedding and staying for a few days after (so you can enjoy the all inclusive stuff after the wedding) but 2 weeks is insane.

I've only done two 2-week get away's in my life, and they were both with DH (my engagement trip and honeymoon). No way would I be doing that for someone else's wedding. She's crazy.
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Umm yeah no. I would not be using up my entire years worth of vacation for a wedding. I'm totally with you on that!

I couple days before and a day or so after the wedding sure but that's the max I'd go.

Bride is going to have a rude awakening if she thinks people can just take off 2 weeks from their lives.
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You know she probably has planned out a schedule for those 14 days; all revolving around her. I think arriving just the day before is a great idea.
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ft12
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Its not a big resort, I have no idea what they are going to do for two weeks!
I mean it's her wedding, she can do whatever she wants to but my jaw dropped.

Last time I went to a resort with her she put on 5lbs in 4 days so I hope she can still fit into her wedding dress at the end of this?
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ft12
Apr 12 2018, 05:28 PM
Its not a big resort, I have no idea what they are going to do for two weeks!
I mean it's her wedding, she can do whatever she wants to but my jaw dropped.

Last time I went to a resort with her she put on 5lbs in 4 days so I hope she can still fit into her wedding dress at the end of this?
Is she going to stay longer after the wedding to enjoy it more? I think it'd be torture to go to a resort and not be able to enjoy myself because I had to fit into a dress.

14 days is a long time to stay somewhere though.
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Allday
Apr 12 2018, 05:32 PM
ft12
Apr 12 2018, 05:28 PM
Its not a big resort, I have no idea what they are going to do for two weeks!
I mean it's her wedding, she can do whatever she wants to but my jaw dropped.

Last time I went to a resort with her she put on 5lbs in 4 days so I hope she can still fit into her wedding dress at the end of this?
Is she going to stay longer after the wedding to enjoy it more? I think it'd be torture to go to a resort and not be able to enjoy myself because I had to fit into a dress.

14 days is a long time to stay somewhere though.
Nope she wanted to the wedding to be the culmination of the trip so she has 50 or so people all going.
All families or couples, most with children.

There is me and a male friend who are the only people going alone. His partner is in a wheelchair and doesn't feel comfortable travelling to Mexico.

There is not enough money in the world to make me hang out with 50 people I don't know for two weeks.
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There IS enough money to persuade me, but it's an awful, awful lot.

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Special is one word for it! It's like she completely forgot how real life works once the ring went on her finger.
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artisticlicense
Apr 12 2018, 05:47 PM
There IS enough money to persuade me, but it's an awful, awful lot.

Same. It is an absolutely obscene amount of money. Like my retirement account to a power of 10.

...holy crap, I plugged that into Excel for fun. That IS obscene. But I’ll stick to it.
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ft12
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Apr 12 2018, 05:51 PM
Special is one word for it! It's like she completely forgot how real life works once the ring went on her finger.
Ironically I never thought it would happen to this girl.

She also wants a trip for her bachelorette (vegas or scotland were thrown around) and she wants a musical number from the bridesmaids at the reception. She knows they are way out of my budget, she didn't contribute to my bachelorette even though she was a bridesmaid so she isn't getting anything from me.

I've already told her, if the bridesmaids dresses are more than $100 plus tax or strapless I am out.
Edited by ft12, Apr 12 2018, 06:10 PM.
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First, why not have the wedding towards the beginning so she can have lots of fun afterwards.

And no fucking way.

DH and I will be traveling for 2 weeks, possibly longer, in part to attend a wedding. The wedding we'll be in town for a few days. Since it's in Australia, if we're making the trip, we'll have fun with it. But the only day we are being "asked" to be there is the actual wedding day.
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notstillme
Apr 12 2018, 06:15 PM
First, why not have the wedding towards the beginning so she can have lots of fun afterwards.

And no fucking way.

DH and I will be traveling for 2 weeks, possibly longer, in part to attend a wedding. The wedding we'll be in town for a few days. Since it's in Australia, if we're making the trip, we'll have fun with it. But the only day we are being "asked" to be there is the actual wedding day.
DH and I kind of did the same thing. A friend's wedding was near Washington DC so we made a trip of it since we had never been. A week in DC, time in Delaware, Virginia and Pennsylvania, and then the wedding in Maryland. It was a great trip!
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ft12
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notstillme
Apr 12 2018, 06:15 PM
First, why not have the wedding towards the beginning so she can have lots of fun afterwards.

And no fucking way.

DH and I will be traveling for 2 weeks, possibly longer, in part to attend a wedding. The wedding we'll be in town for a few days. Since it's in Australia, if we're making the trip, we'll have fun with it. But the only day we are being "asked" to be there is the actual wedding day.
I had my mexican wedding the day after we arrived (because we got in at 3pm the day before) which meant I didn't really eat or drink that night because I wanted to look fresh for my wedding photos. You can absolutely see the people who had been drinking all day in the photos because their skin is so ruddy.

Not to mention she is pale as a ghost and is going to be burnt to heck if she spends two weeks in the sun before getting married!

I gently tried to explain why I'm not going but she is sensitive and stressed out so when I could see her hackles getting up I made up vague stuff and bowed out of the conversation with a "that's the best I can do" :ermm:

I feel like this is going to be such a train wreck!
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It sounds like it will be a trainwreck. I don't understand having a destination wedding for 2 weeks plus wanting a trip for a bachelorette party.

That's a lot of resources for anyone to use up on a wedding. The money and time off required are a lot just by itself.

It's very rare that your (general) wedding is as important to everyone else as it is to you. I think a lot of weddings would go a lot smoother if brides and grooms remembered that.

I'm glad you're setting limits on being in the wedding and what you're willing to do.
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Holy crap. Who expects 50 people to use two weeks of vacation and pay for that long in a resort for someone else’s wedding?
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ft, you *must* keep us updated!
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notstillme
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Yes, we def will need updates!

It's fine if the bride and groom want to stay 2 weeks and have the honeymoon and all that there. I can even understand some guests choosing (key word here) to make a vacation of it. But to expect it of ppl? That's a big ol nopetopus
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You couldn't pay me to go to Mexico. There's absolutely no way I'd give up two weeks vacation to go there.
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I could be paid to attend in your place and I would keep one and all posted on the happenings. Kind of like a journalist. Yeah, that would make it all legit. Sign me up.
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Scotland or Vegas? Because those are definitely two parallel options.

Don't you live in NZ? Where does the bride normally reside?

Or perhaps I am being narrow-minded and not appreciative of her global perspective on life.
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ft12
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Apr 13 2018, 01:29 AM
Scotland or Vegas? Because those are definitely two parallel options.

Don't you live in NZ? Where does the bride normally reside?

Or perhaps I am being narrow-minded and not appreciative of her global perspective on life.
I do live in NZ now, I came back to Canada to work the summer for the train company I was working for. My contract in NZ ended in Feb and they want me back in August so it gave me a chance to come back and see some friends/get 2 summers in a row.

Vegas would be okay but I can't stand two of the bridesmaids (sisters) so I'm not going to go and be miserable around them.
Scotland is just so outlandish I immediately said nope. ^o) I said the same thing about the musical number :ermm: I know we are "theatre people" but that's so tacky I can't even.

The maid of honour is a total witch who is refusing to share anything except with her sister so the rest of us are just going to have a movie night or something with the bride.
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Figment
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Aren’t people bonded enough just by the fact they were invited to the wedding? How much more bonded can you get?
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Figment
Apr 13 2018, 02:23 AM
Aren’t people bonded enough just by the fact they were invited to the wedding? How much more bonded can you get?
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Stimpy!!!
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