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| Topic Started: Apr 12 2018, 05:34 PM (601 Views) | |
| 2anjuliboys | Apr 12 2018, 05:34 PM Post #1 |
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Some may remember my cousin with a bunch of kids by four different dads. She's been having kids trying to get a second girl, and miscarried what would have been her 9th child and her 2nd girl last year. Relevant backstory: she's had all of her kids taken at one point or another, has been in and out of jobs, has mental health issues, with some given back and some not, and is just not a very intelligent person. Well, she's pregnant again and with another boy. So she'll have at least another one after this baby. And to top it off she's facing a felony gun charge, and looking at up to a year in prison, with long term probation after that. So she might even be having this kid in prison. Yes, I know, I can't tell anyone how many kids to have, I have no right to judge, etc. I'm just sad that this is what she's choosing when she really can't care for the kids she has. And that I know she'll keep having more until she gets at least one more girl. And probably not even then, because she'll want a third girl. Hell, even our grandmother, who had 9 kids herself, loves the baby stage and really loves being able to coo about her many descendants, said "N really needs to stop". So, please no flames, I'm just venting here. I feel sad more than anything that this is her and her kids' lives. Edited by 2anjuliboys, Apr 12 2018, 05:41 PM.
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| allycat | Apr 12 2018, 05:39 PM Post #2 |
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Poor kids.
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| DarlingDewey | Apr 12 2018, 05:47 PM Post #3 |
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Coach
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I'm sorry, that's really sad and tough to watch. I have a sister like that, we keep thinking she's got to hit menopause soon but she just keeps having more. The last pregnancy was a set of twins, bringing her grand total to nine. I can't tell you how many times she's been in jail and had her kids removed. |
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| Aqua | Apr 12 2018, 05:56 PM Post #4 |
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Sad Sack Puppy
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It just sounds like a difficult path for her and for all of the kids. I don’t blame you for feeling that way about it. |
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| 2anjuliboys | Apr 12 2018, 07:10 PM Post #5 |
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The saddest part of all this, the part that makes me angry, is everyone in our family knew, even back when we were kids, that this was going to be her path. I mean, by the time she and I were 11 (she's not quite 3 months younger than me), I remember all the adults saying she was going to have as many kids as our Gramma. And no one did shit to stop it. I mean, her mom was drugged out at the time, but no one else truly pushed for normalcy for her, or her siblings (those are other, sad stories, but at least don't involved introducing baby after baby after baby). |
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| Walternate | Apr 12 2018, 07:15 PM Post #6 |
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Walternate is a fuzzy smurple.
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It’s one thing to have a bunch of kids while stable but quite another to have a bunch while unstable in so many ways. Her behavior is so far past the alternate lifestyle line that I think judging her bad decisions is perfectly acceptable. |
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| adrienne | Apr 12 2018, 11:35 PM Post #7 |
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I understand 100%. My son got involved with a gal 12 years ago that had already had 9 children who were not with her anymore and while they were together she got pregnant with #10 but, the baby was not his. Her mother was hoping that he was the father because he was the only one that would be a responsible parent in spite of his issues. It was fucked up all around. Anyway, the baby's father was the father of three of her other children. That is a whole 'nother story. My son finally got his shit together 10 years ago and is a wonderful father to my 8 year old grandson. Life takes many twists and turns and who knows how it will end up until it ends. |
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