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I need advice!!
Topic Started: Sep 1 2006, 08:05 PM (378 Views)
xDizzyx
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OK... guys, I reeeally need your help here.


I caught my cousin snogging my best friends boyfriend. She moved his hand up into her skirt. I didn't see any more after that because I ran from the doorway. They don't know I saw. I told my best friend, face to face. And she thinks that I want to split her and her boyfriend up because I used to (emphasis on the USED TO) have a crush on him. Now she thinks I want to break them up so I can have him. I don't even WANT him anymore!! And now I have lost my bestie... I think. She just told me I was lying and stormed out of the internet cafe (long story made short: im in here because my sis who moved out ages ago because mum and her had a huge argument. The screaming now is too much for me so i came here). I am really upset. I though she would want to know. Wouldn't you?

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AlvildaBonneyOMalley
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Maybe try to catch them in the act again and take a photo of it to show to your friend? I'm not the person to give the best advice. I'm sorry about your situation.
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Alia Atreides
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I though she would want to know. Wouldn't you?

You know, that's all very relative. Sure, I might say that I would want to know if my significant other was cheating on me, but...it would crush me to find out, I would probably be in denial, and I have no way to say that I would not have the exact same reaction that your friend did.

There really is no way for you to prove that he is cheating on your friend, without getting yourself in deeper than you probably should be. The more and greater lengths you go to proving it, the more your friend will suspect your motives, and the worse relations you will have with your cousin as well.

I know it's hard, but probably the best thing to do is just step back and let things happen. You've told your friend, and you've done what you think is right, and there is little more that can be asked, or expected of you on this matter. It's tough, believe me, I know, but just do what you can to be supportive of everyone in the situation, especially your friend, because now is a situation when she really needs you the most.

I hope that helps in some way.
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Coldmetal
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I agree completley with Hildwyn. It probably would be best to let the universe run it's course.

I can tell you from personal experience, your friend has every right to believe you are trying to split them up, as much as that sounds mean. Unless you find out yourself, you tend not to believe it.

However, if you are going to try to get proof, I suggest doing it as quietly as possible. If you have a webcam or camcorder, set it up under some clothes so they don't see it. You don't need them being mad at you, and you don't need your friend even more angry.

Another option, I guess, would be to talk to your cousin about it. I can't really tell you what to say (When I confronted them, I wasn't very concerned about their feelings :lol: ) but I feel it would be best not to try to confront your friends boyfriend, as he will probably just lie about it and your frind will hate you more.

I hope things work out for you and your friend. I've been in this situation before (Both sides of the court), and it's not fun, I know.
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swedishfish67
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Well, I'm not normally one for advice like this, but I think you did the right thing. What matters is that you were trying to help your friend, and, because you guys are best friends, after she processes this information she will see that. The news that you told her is certainly news she did not want to hear, so unfortunately she kind of ended up shooting the messenger. Once she gets through her denial/stress/upset-ness she will probably see things clearer and not be so upset at you- I think that right now she is having a tough time and unfortunately all you can do is wait it out. Don't worry, I'm sure things will work out ok - you are doing the right thing. :hug:
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Eyemcool76
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I'm a little young to have dealt with any thing this bad but i have had some experience. If you were her best friend you will be friends again. Like CM and hildwyn were talking about taking the universe taking its course, if it was the course that you two should be best friends, then thats what will happen agian. Eventually. Once she gets over it. But if ou EVER start liking him again (which is a lot more likely to happen than you think, believe me) make sure she's okay with it. Once again, with the whole universe thing. If she would be mad then, she might be mad again.
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xDizzyx
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Thanks all for your advice... It really helped. I hope you are all right though, that she'll get over it and face the facts.
I suppose I could Coldmetal. But, then it might get found and then that would cause even more trouble!!! But... ugh!!! Why do things have to be so DIFFICULT?
I am going to confront my cousin about it. I don't like people who (will, when she finds out) hurt my best friend. Especially not Jenny (this particular friend). She's been through too much. That's it. I have decided for definite. I am going to go and confront my cousin. I shall tell you all how it went later.
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xDizzyx
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OK, sorry I took so long but I've been out!! I confronted my cousin and got whacked round the jaw. It reeeeeally hurts. Good news though, my best friend caught my cousin and her boyfriend at it and nwo shes my friend again :yay: but shes really heartbroken so im her shoulder to cry on.
Thank you all for your help,
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Coldmetal
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She hit you? Wow, I'm sorry I told you to go talk to her. God, what a bitch.

I'm glad everything worked out for you, though. Tis good.
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ElvenLight
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Doesn't seem like much of a friend if she hit you.
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BlooKazoo77
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you should've hit her back. lol I mean, c'mon, you are the one doing the right thing about it and she shouldn't have done that. so there. good job anyway though. I would've done the same thing in your shoes. well, sort of. 8]
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Kirebz Bashkey
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Doesn't seem like much of a friend if she hit you.

Twas not your friend but your cousin that hit you right?

Anyhow i noticed how your cousin is now the black sheep while that dude is a bastard much the same but still manages miraculously to avoid all flak.
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xDizzyx
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...? Erm no. I haven't told you what happened since then (liars dice was a'callin). They broke up.
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