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| Hotspot | Jun 27 2013, 12:11 AM Post #1 |
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Have you ever had a friend who turned into someone else over night? Like yesterday they were most interesting, nicest person in the world, but then today they're really mean and negative..and then they stay like that! It's like they just changed into a completely different person overnight and they're there to stay. I believe I have a friend like this! It's really weird because all of a sudden they're acting in a way that can be considered mean and rude, but they never did that before. They also said that they are usually joking anyways, but the thing is they never did that before. It's like, I get that you're joking around, but you're kind of being an ass and you weren't like this to me before....so what's the deal?! What we had going before was good, but how you're behaving to me now is going to make me stray from you and eventually we'll be someone we used to know to each other, just like that song from that guy I don't know the name of! I really don't know what to do, because they're kind of getting on my nerves now and I might say something mean back that definitely will not be a joke and that might ruin our friendship for sure. So, has anyone ever had a friend that changed really quickly? I made a post about this on my blog |
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| Queen Pikachu | Jun 27 2013, 08:17 PM Post #2 |
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Yep; this has indeed happened to me. My advice; talk to them about it & tell them your feelings. Maybe they're just unaware of how your feeling. Some times people take things to literally or are to sensitive about what is said to them; then others in that other person's group of friends most times I've noticed. Some times it's just that maybe they aren't aware that what might have been said to you may have hurt your feelings or made them come off as a complete a**hat. So yea just take them aside; or what ever the case maybe & talk to them about it. Some times when you do they'll have no idea that they even said anything that could have come off as rude or a**hat-ish to begin with and were just trying to joke around. I've come to find that some people who joke around meanly never mean what they said to be hurtful; but the way it comes off.. You some times wonder.. So it's best to just talk to the person outright about it. Edited by Queen Pikachu, Jun 27 2013, 08:20 PM.
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| Hotspot | Jun 29 2013, 12:14 AM Post #3 |
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Well, as for me. I did tell them and they did say they are joking, but I still found what they said to be offensive... in which they told me I was pathetic because I was so sensitive to find them offensive and that I have to grow balls..and when I told them that they were never that way to me before, that "I wasn't special fruitcake". The way they told me this, cause I know there is something else they said that I didn't put in. It was just so negative and mean. So, I am done with them. This was an online friend on Formspring I had known since 2010, and it's really a shame because we had become close. But this negativity and rudeness is just not my thing, so I am just not going to talk to them anymore. They are just dead to me, that's all. The "Real" them just died. Or maybe I just finally realized the real them. Well, I got to talk to them a bit more. We've decided not to be friends anymore, but she apologized and we got to leave on good terms. Here is my Blog post |
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| Queen Pikachu | Jul 1 2013, 07:07 PM Post #4 |
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Well it's sad when people change too much to really be friends with them any more; but in a way it shows how much you've grown as a person in some aspects. So with the good from this comes the bad of losing a once good friend. I'll read your blog post too since I'm at it. *clicks* |
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| Hotspot | Jul 1 2013, 08:11 PM Post #5 |
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Yeah, it was all for the best anyways. Funny enough, I made some new friends on formspring right after that. It's also enlightened me to go on some forums, which I haven't done for a while. |
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| Queen Pikachu | Jul 3 2013, 03:10 AM Post #6 |
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Yea well some times we need to break away from the norm & go back to the old standby things that we used to do. It happens sometimes; we all do new things and forget the old things we used to do. But then when we go back to doing those old things we used to do we remember how much fun we once had doing them too. ;3 |
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| Hotspot | Oct 4 2013, 11:55 PM Post #7 |
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Ironically enough, after three months.. the person I stopped being friends with, realized her actions and apologized.. so we are friends again, but I don't think in the same way. She noticed that even though she was joking, that what she was saying was really hurting people.. and that she'll only use her kind of humor on people who will understand her humor. She realized she was being offensive to people when she noticed someone she would harass, for lack of a better word... just kind of left and is worried that the person she affected may have done something irrational such as suicide... this clicked in and so she is trying to change herself now. |
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| KingsIndian | Oct 5 2013, 08:01 AM Post #8 |
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Well, I'm glad there was a happy ending to this in the end .
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| Chaco | Feb 10 2014, 11:28 AM Post #9 |
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Me to^^ I actually have a friend who's turned into something else, BUT, in a positive way. I don't know why everything in this topic needs to be negative. Afterall, sometimes people who are negative and you think "I don't think this person can be my friend due to <insert reason(s) here>" suddenly turns out to be really cool. Maybe this is due to a misunderstanding on one or both parties part, maybe it's due to that person realizing something that has made them grow or more mature, maybe even just time. I just know, if I can repair a friendship I will. But, there are certain things that people do to each other that can be so cruel that it cannot be forgiven or forgotten easily. I guess the thing is deciding, are the bad things someone does, worth it to deal with, if the good things they can give you as a friend is more worth it? In most cases it's yes, in some no, and that's just how the cookie crumbles. |
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| Hotspot | Feb 10 2014, 10:39 PM Post #10 |
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For a negative to positive story.. I have had friends that I wasn't fond of until I got to know them. There is one person I am really great friends with now, but when we first met, I didn't think I'd be friends with them. Oddly enough, two people at work that I wanted to be friends with.. I'm iffy about due to their views and just their opinions overall. I mean one of them decided to show a video of a man being beheaded to the security guard.. very questionable about that one. The other one I am just afraid hates gay people because she's religious.. and she did post some things on facebook that were facepalm worthy. But as Chaco said, it's just how the cookie crumbles. |
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