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Be imperfect/be human; dealing with pain
Topic Started: Oct 14 2012, 04:39 PM (28 Views)
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Pain is part of the package. Life is not a sitcom. I know at least 30-40 people who chose to end their lives. I live with this. Pain. well. dont drink alcohol or do drugs. simply Russian roulette if you are teetering the pain wave. Stay away from all people who suck your energy. Period. It is your life, your energy, protect it beyond all costs. you are worth it.

There are no hard and fast rules for dealing with pain. We are each different, but you must find what works for you. and then accept it. doesnt matter what other people think, removed judgement, and those who judge from your inner circle. A solid inner circle is usually small. this is good. Keeps the shallow pretenders outside where they cannot covertly add to your pain. Living this is not easy. I ask for help often. from my life energy/god.

I hate when people say chosen death is selfish. these people obviously have no idea of the dispair and pain lived by those who consider this route. I never use the S word. makes it sound dirty. It is sad. not criminal or sinful. The rules. You must live this journey out. you are bound to trying to overcome any and all obstacles and are allowed to feel not like doing so .... but each day is different, and gifts of hope and joy do come when you least expect them and from places you never imagined. Chosen Death is not a solution. Crossing the finish line naturally is my goal. some will not be able to relate to that. I live this. and i have seen and felt the ripples of this choice by others. I must do all that i can to get through this life on its natural course... fate or free will... i choose to Try. some days. i sleep all day. that is okay too. Other times i listen to music that gives me hope. Or a go for a long walk... by myself. Talking to yourself is imperative to getting good direction. :) sometimes when i really think i need to "administer" something to feel good.... i really want a glass of wine or a beer, but i have recognized that those are the precise times to stay away, so i may eat the entire top half of a store bought cake, and soak in the tub, and then take my meds. and go to bed.

Yes meds. see your doctor. When my anxiety is BIGGER then me, my ability to think rationally, I take one of my meds that makes me tired and i go to sleep. A nap. It is a short form of escapism and I know that when i wake i will not feel as bad as when i went to sleep.

First nations people believe that those who do not live their natural path will return to the same in their next journey in order to overcome. who knows what is true. I know i am not taking any chances of living this again. I ask to live each day with some purpose. One day at time. no long term planning. live in the now. pray. i have a friend, that when i am really down, i text, and say... i need to laugh. so he gets ridiculus and within ten minutes of texting i am laughing and the endorphins have take over the darkness.

these are some things i do... there is no exact route. talk to someone. if your therapist is a dork, get a new one. if your doctor patronizes you.... get a new one. if your "friends" make you feel worse. drop em. lol. eat fudge instead. and laugh. ;)


oh, sometimes, if i feel really sad and really need to cry i will find a particular tv show that it practically guaranteed to bring out the kleenex (Extreme Home Make Overs) truly, never watch except i can feel the dispair choking me and by the time they yell "Move that Bus" My eyes and nose are a fountain and i can breath again. there is no silly way. find yours.
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