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I dont know how much longer i can go on!
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Topic Started: Oct 15 2012, 03:19 AM (65 Views)
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Nikki.17
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Oct 15 2012, 03:19 AM
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I was raped by my ex, now i feel alone, scared, depressed 24/7 . I finally started getting better and i meet this guy and he tells me i mean everything to him, and i truly like him but the last time i saw him we held hands and all of a sudden i had a flash back of my ex and i wanted to cry, then he tells me that im beautifuk and i felt like crying even more. What if he finds out or i lose him. I started to cut to get away from the pain of the rape, and once it starts going away something happens to bring it back. I feel like dying
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Jayce
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Oct 15 2012, 03:32 AM
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Hi Nikki.... what you've gone through is horrific.. Your new guy will understand, if you talk to him about it. You'll feel more safe and he'll be able to tell when you're thinking about that and take extra care of your feelings.
It does take time to deal with, but you can and will! Don't be afraid to talk about what you've been going through.
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Int.girl
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Oct 15 2012, 03:38 AM
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Don't give up on everything and destroy your own life for what one horrible person did to you. I can imagine it must be horrible to live with that kind of pain and not being able to trust any man. I hope you can see that not everyone is like your ex and if a man is treating you nicely and telling you are beautiful then you can give him a small chance to get to know you a little bit. And if he is truely a nice guy and he does find out about what has happened to you then he wont blame you because it's not your fault. But maybe you still need more time before you get involved in another relationship if you are still dealing with that much pain. Also tell some one that you love and trust about what has happened and how it's still affecting you. It will help take some of the pain off of you if you can share your true feelings with someone. I guess talking to us here on this website is a good first step to recovery
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lostlexi17
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Oct 15 2012, 03:39 AM
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I'm so sorry about what happened to you. If you need someone to talk to I am here. You can message me on here or you can email me at lostlexi17@yahoo.com
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freesonya4life
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Oct 15 2012, 03:45 AM
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Nikki.17, you've got to be allowed to grieve, hun. Alot of things with this new guy are going to be scary and trigger bad memories, even if he's a stand-up guy. The thing to remember is, those bad things are memories, and eventually they will spring up less and less. What that guy did was horrible, but it was HIS fault, not yours. And if any guy you met can't understand that, then they will only tear you down. I hope you find healing and support here.
Please feel free to message me if I can help you?
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Oct 15 2012, 03:50 AM
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Hey hun, I can't possibly imagine what you're going through, although when I was 16 I was targeted by a sexual predator, who my friend at the time introduced me too. She told me he was a nice guy, so we started going out, but he was so horrible, he got inside my head and mentally abused me, manipulated me, luckily before anything else could happen I talked to my brother about I because I was so scared, and he helped me get the courage to tell my mum, and my mum told my dad and they went to the police about him. Since I spoke to the police, other girls as young as 14 have come forward about him. I still haven't got closure and i'm 19, I can't be around guys that say they like me and that i'm beautiful. It reminds me to much of him, but I am glad I spoke to my family and the police cause I felt safe again. Maybe you should go to the police, that way you can get it under control and stop blaming yourself. Something like this could never be your fault and I want you to know that. You will love again in time, maybe it's a good idea to explain to the nice guy what has happened and maybe take it really, really slow. As I said I still can't be in a relationship. If you want to talk to me, inbox me
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