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| Guest | Sep 28 2015, 04:56 PM Post #1 |
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Without them, I probably would be a totally different person. |
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| Guest | Sep 28 2015, 05:11 PM Post #2 |
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Gone at 17 with little or no subsequent interaction. Have been on my own ever since. I have often wondered if there had been a relationship if their influence would have had an impact. Good question though, OP. Am curious of other's stories. |
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| Guest | Sep 28 2015, 05:18 PM Post #3 |
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Mine taught me how to speak English correctly & I'm grateful for that. |
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| Tybee | Sep 28 2015, 05:38 PM Post #4 |
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For all the negative impact my late father had on me my mother made up for it 100 times over. My father was a nasty piece of work at times. He could show affection, but you always knew any time he did you would be made to pay for it relatively soon after. There were three people in this world he was terrified of displeasing. My mother, my maternal grandmother, and Miss Addie the lady who raised my mother, and then my brother & sister & me. Those 3 ladies are responsible for everything I've ever done or ever will do right in life. In fact, Miss Addie in some ways had a more lasting effect on me than my mother or grandmother, which was my mother's plan all along. A lady with a 5th grade education who was the smartest person I've ever known, at least about life. The only lasting effect my father had on me from childhood on was that I always had one main thought in my mind which was to make sure I never turned out to be anything like him as my older brother and sister did. My mother and Miss Addie saw early on that unlike my siblings who had much of my father's heritage in their makeup, I had my mother's heritage in mine. People used to comment on the fact that I was so much different than the other 2, from looks to personality. But, I guess when you get right down to it my father and his hateful ways probably made me a better person and stronger. Thank goodness I had more of my mother's genetic makeup to counteract any negative impact from whatever genes I inherited from him. |
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| Guest | Sep 28 2015, 05:48 PM Post #5 |
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Is there any residual bitterness or anger toward your father's treatment or has that dissipated thru the years. |
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| Guest | Sep 28 2015, 05:57 PM Post #6 |
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What sort of things did you learn from Miss Addie? |
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| Tybee | Sep 28 2015, 06:19 PM Post #7 |
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It took me a good 10 years after he died to be able to forgive him. In some ways he had little choice but to turn out the way he did. His own father was a demon and I learned much later that his mother showed little to no love or affection to her children. After I bought this property I was in Savannah one day and decided to stop by and see my last surviving relative on my father's side, his younger sister. I hadn't seen her in 25 years and I knew she couldn't last much longer at her age. We sat and talked a while about their family and out of the blue she said "never a hug, never a smile, never any love at all". My mother told me my father said once that when he was a child if any of the children spoke out of turn at the dinner table their father would throw a knife or a fork at them. Considering the circumstances I guess my father could have been much worse. He did start showing affection toward me the year and a half he lived after my mother died. My siblings pretty much stayed away as they never liked anyone to cause any upset to their lives. But I, the one who he mistreated the most, was the one who took care of everything for him at the end of his life. It wasn't until then that he actually showed any real love toward me. Unfortunately it was too little, too late. |
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| Tybee | Sep 28 2015, 06:24 PM Post #8 |
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Far too many things to list, but primarily that if I put more into life than I expected to get out of it, I'd do fine. |
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| Erna | Sep 29 2015, 03:24 AM Post #9 |
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In a way too incredibly wonderful to describe but, sadly, we did not appreciate it, nor were we aware of it at the time.
Edited by Erna, Sep 29 2015, 05:35 AM.
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| Guest | Sep 29 2015, 05:11 AM Post #10 |
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They sent me to school, where I learned proper subject-verb agreement. |
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| Erna | Sep 29 2015, 05:36 AM Post #11 |
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Please clairfy, Grammatica. |
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| Guest | Sep 29 2015, 09:49 AM Post #12 |
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My parents didn't want to invest in their children. They were salivating to get us graduated from high school and out of the house. They kept his money and bought houses, cars. Gambled. None of us 3 kids went to college; it was never encouraged or offered. Now they're elderly and we have very little contact with them. You reap what you sow. |
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