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| Topic Started: August 18, 2012, 11:26 pm (17,047 Views) | |
| Diabolic | October 1, 2013, 1:00 am Post #261 |
When you and your girl weren't ready for what happened next.
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This is probably my dumbest vent yet, but it should be entertaining to some people, even I don't think it's that terrible...just...wtf?? So, now that I'm getting more hours and stuff, I'm around my supervisors more often, one of whom is someone I went to High School with. She was a year behind me and a year younger than me, so it feels pretty weird to have a former junior of mine ordering me around. Believe it or not, that ISN'T what's bothering me. I'm totally cool with it, she's been there longer than me, so she's obviously a bit higher on the food chain. I'm cool with that, she works hard, so it's only natural she get rewarded for her efforts. What's bothering me is the whole 'call me over for every little thing in an attempt to be around me' thing. How do I know it's a romantic interest she's taken in me? Drunk text messages...at a little past midnight...that clearly suggest things. (Obviously, I'm going to omit those details in particular.) Like, I had my suspicions for a while, now, but I didn't want to jump to conclusions for obvious reasons. At first, I just assumed she was enjoying my company because we had the same class and it's fun to catch up, which makes perfect sense. Let me just...throw out an example of how I get dragged off: Me: H-hey! I thought I was working the checkout lanes, today? -after she grabs me by the arm and drags me away- Her: Not right now, you're not, I need some help back here in the cafe. Me: But I'm not trained for that! ...And since when do you work in the cafe? Her: You mean you've never noticed that? And relax, you're pretty much my go-to guy at this point. Me: Wow, those checkout lanes sure look busy~ ...And are you gonna let go of my arm anytime soon? I'm not gonna run away. Her: I just need you to help me out back here in the kitchen. Me: ...And the guy on his phone on the job is unavailable, because...? Her: He's on the phone. Me: He's on the clock...ah, whatever, what do you need me to do. Her: I'm gonna finish making these pizzas and breadsticks while you ring out people's orders, after that, you and I will restock the shelves in the store together once the regular cafe people come back from their break. Me: Uhh, as much as I don't mind NOT having to be on the checkout lanes, doesn't it make more sense to do that with the guy who's...y'know...slacking off? Cuz he's trained for all of that? ...At least put him on my register so that it doesn't get too busy! And please let go of my arm! Yeah, that happened...that was a thing. Now, don't get me wrong, it's kinda flattering. And she's not pure evil or anything, nice girl when you get to know her. But I'm not interested, and I kind of live by a saying that goes 'You don't s*** where you eat.' That means, don't mix your honey with your money. Do. Not. Get. Romantically. Involved. With. Co-workers. Especially. The. Ones. That. Can. Boss. You. Around. Now, I'm sure there's a perfectly logical non-getting-the-higher-ups-involved way of doing this with no repercussions, but I have literally never dealt with anything like this, so I'm just thrown for a loop is all. I'm not looking to steal her position, or get her fired, or any mess like that. I just wanna look back on this someday and laugh, like I do at a lot of things! :3 Laughing is fun, after all :3 Edited by Diabolic, October 1, 2013, 1:02 am.
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A tumblr? What's that? Can I eat it? Would you leave your lives to chance? What if I told you...you didn't have a choice? Swiggity Swag, Akihiko's in the bag! Have y'all seen my business card yet?
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| WeirdRaptor | October 1, 2013, 7:14 pm Post #262 |
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Before I post this rant, I would I like to say that I do not hate the Childfree group. This is also not some rant in which I insist that everyone needs to turn to their partner and start breeding like rabbits. I also do not think that everyone absolutely HAS to have kids, nor do I think that everyone is cut out to be a parent. That's not my problem with the Childfree crowd. Don't want kids? Fine with me. I don't care. I won't judge. My problem if when they start bashing people who do have children. They even have a derogatory term for then, "Breeders". Okay, I get it. The Childfree crowd has taken criticisms over the years because a lot of people have it hardwired into their heads that because they have reproductive organs that they HAVE to be used to make a new person, and there are a lot of parents out there whose kids have grown up and now they want grandkids. And against that are people who just don't want kids (often for legit reasons), but will continue to get pressured by others. Yes, I get how that can be frustrating, even maddening. However... Making up a derogatory word for anyone who has ever reproduced is just wrong. Firstly, most people, whether childless or with children, have had nothing to do with any hardships you've faced from others, and most won't care about what you've decided to do or not do with your reproducive information. Secondly, the whole reason you exist is because your parents hopped into bed, and...I will spare you the more graphic details. The point is, you exist because of the "breeder" crowd, as does everyone you've ever cared about. Thirdly, some people NEED to reproduce in order to keep the species alive. Yes, yes, I know, there is currently a medric ton of humankind, and yes, I know, we can stand to cut down on reproduction. However, SOME reproducing needs to continue for the species' sake, and people who want and/or do have children are NOT stupid or inferior to those without. I've had one person say, "Yeah, well, the Breeders have been hating on us for centuries, so it's high time for some polite push back, and you if you don't like it, then, boohoo." ...That is beside the point, buddy. If you start acting petty, no one is going to listen to you or support your decision. Childfree persons who bash families are not doing their cause any favors. They're making the situation worse, because they're painting the the entire lot as a group of self-important, egotistical prats with a big chip on their shoulder. If you want to be both Childfree and respected, then you have to be respectful, too, even when things get frustrating. Stereotyping the other side of the argument is not the way to go about this. You will never convince everyone of your stance, true, but that's also true of every argument. There will always be someone who thinks that you're wrong and need to be corrected, and that's not exclusive to your decision to be child free. It happens everywhere and probably in every aspect of everyone's life somewhere down the line. But that's not the point. The point is how well you handle it. And yes, I am aware that there are respectful Childfree people out there, but I needed to get this off my chest. Annnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnd, another thing, quoted directly from one Childfree person on the point about reproducing couples being the reason anyone exists: "Yeah, well, not existing wouldn't be that big of a deal. If I'd never existed, I wouldn't have been contributed to the overpopulation of the Earth. So I'd be fine with not existing, since my mother only had me because she was pressured by religious ideals. I had my pubes tied when I was 33 and I'm 50 now, and I have no regrets. Frankly, I think everyone should be snipped at birth and that only a select few should be allowed to breed for the sake of future generations." ... ... ...... ......... ............ What You know, I can understand being concerned that there are over 7 billion covering the planet surface, but to actually not even be grateful for your own existance is just a whole new level of crazy that I was not prepared to deal with. Also, this nutball blames religion for everything. EVERYTHING. No, seriously, she ignores every factor that ever mattered in any circumstance, ever, and just blames religion. Yes, overpopulation is an issue, but the answer is not taking people's libidos to the chopping block at birth. The answer is responsibility and getting families to properly educate their children on cause and effect. |
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| Diabolic | October 1, 2013, 9:49 pm Post #263 |
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When you and your girl weren't ready for what happened next.
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...I am downright afraid of what I just read, are there seriously people like that out there? What kind of pseudo-Charles Darwinism is that? 'Select few'? Now, I don't plan on having kids...ever, but that's my business, not theirs. |
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A tumblr? What's that? Can I eat it? Would you leave your lives to chance? What if I told you...you didn't have a choice? Swiggity Swag, Akihiko's in the bag! Have y'all seen my business card yet?
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| WeirdRaptor | October 2, 2013, 12:56 am Post #264 |
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Exactly. People have certain inalienable rights, and snipping everyone at birth before they even have a say in the matter just downright violates that. |
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| Diabolic | November 18, 2013, 11:33 pm Post #265 |
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When you and your girl weren't ready for what happened next.
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Hooray~! Three for one deal in the venting topic~ :3 This one'll explain where I've been for a little while, as well as a few other things  1. The reason I haven't been on lately is because my home did not have internet access for a while, due to some major payments that needed to be made. My mom's hours were cut, and my barely above minimum wage salary wasn't cutting it, even if I put in entire paychecks towards the household. the only time I had the net was when I was over my buddy's house, so there's that. 2. As much as I like the people I work with, and I genuinely like them and enjoy their company, they need to understand that there is literally a limit to how much I can do in one day...especially if I'm working multiple departments. I don't think there's a need to get on my case when something doesn't get done on the sales floor because I'm working the cafe. Don't blame me, blame the guy who called out for whatever reason, or just blame the circumstances, but not the guy who works himself to the bone running everywhere trying to keep things running smoothly. Also, people who do their shopping for the holidays need to realize that no matter how stressed they are or how long someone has been working somewhere, said worker might not know where something is off of the top of his head. For example, I don't know (or care) where the deluxe Barbie guitars are. I didn't even know those things existed. I don't mind helping you look for one, but don't get an attitude with me when I need to pull out my PDA to see where it would be. I'm not a 7 year old girl, so naturally, I'm a little confused at the girly toy section. Oh, and it's not my fault if we don't carry said guitar, so there~ >:3 3. My computer's a jerk, it deleted everything I had for Isolated Risk a little while back...which is very annoying considering Chapter 1 was basically in the playtesting stages, bad ends and all, and it took a substantial amount of time to work on. It's taking a substantial amount of time NOW to replace and redo. Thankfully, it's getting done since I actually know what I'm doing now (Thanks to everyone here that helped me and pointed me in the right direction, thanks all! :3), but it's a pain to start from scratch. Anywho, that's it for now, at least I have the net back :3 Time to pick up where I left off, and on the bright side, I can crank out a few chapters of 'Diabolic searches for a Harem' again :3 |
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A tumblr? What's that? Can I eat it? Would you leave your lives to chance? What if I told you...you didn't have a choice? Swiggity Swag, Akihiko's in the bag! Have y'all seen my business card yet?
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| Morishige Sakutaro - kun | December 11, 2013, 5:40 pm Post #266 |
Mayu's Shige-nii.
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I think I speak for most gamers when I say f**k the new Youtube ID changes. Morishige. |
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Mayu and Morishige - Forever apart Sachiko's worst torture | |
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| superdubes | December 12, 2013, 12:00 am Post #267 |
The horror.
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I'm so tired of feeling like I'm useless and nothing I do is worth a damn. I always strive to do as best as I can, but it never seems to be enough. If there is anyone out there that knows the secret to feeling like your existence is worth a damn please let me know. I haven't figured that one out yet. |
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| Eagle | December 12, 2013, 4:21 pm Post #268 |
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The secret is to not let yourself define your own sense of worth on the approval of others. |
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| Mayu Suzumoto | December 14, 2013, 1:01 pm Post #269 |
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Thanks to my health issues, I can't put up a Christmas tree this year. Decorating is probably one of my favorite things to do around the house -- but I've realized that I truly can't. I lack the stamina. I also had to do a lot for Thanksgiving -- to the point that I was exhausted for days afterward because a particular bad!health area was so sore and such from all the physical strain. It's not really a vent, I suppose. It's just...depressing to not have any Christmas lights or a tree. Maybe I'll buy some lights and hang them around the house. I'm not sure. I need something Christmas-esque. I'm just really not feeling it this year since we don't have anything of the sort up. As a result, the holidays have only served to depress me this year. Thanksgiving basically told me that I truly can't strain myself & Christmas is...well, it's probably just going to be a general day and not feel like much of a Christmas at all. No matter what, I refuse to be a scrooge. I'll do my best to wake up with a smile and wish everyone a happy holiday & spread all the love I can. Even if I'm a bit sad, I want to try to spread the Christmas cheer around the house. Everyone seems pretty down, recently. Regardless, I'm going to try to do my best to change that. The most important thing to me is that my family is happy. (With my own happiness following that, of course.) Mmm. Sorta a vent. Sorta a determined message. It still fits here, so I'll leave it. |
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| Ajogamer | December 15, 2013, 2:20 pm Post #270 |
 
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There's no one easy answer, since what feeds into self-worth and motivation can depend a lot on the person, though one thing I hear working for many people is to do something that actively improves the lives of others, such as volunteer work. It may not be everyone's cup of tea, certainly, though it's a lot harder to feel useless or insignificant when you're actively making a positive impact on other people's lives. Ultimately, what sort of activity works best depends a bit on what motivates you and makes you happy, though. For instance, someone who's more of a compassionate, caregiving sort would likely get a lot of fulfillment from volunteer work, yet someone who believes more in survival of the fittest or defines a person's worth mainly on a successful family or career may not get as much out of it. On a related note, there was one test I came across recently that's supposed to measure a person's motivations in 5 different traits, therefore giving some idea of what sorts of activities one may find more rewarding of fulfilling: http://similarminds.com/motiv.html Of course, it's just a simple test, so I wouldn't put too much stock into it, especially since the test also says that these traits can change over time. I often find these types of tests kinda fascinating since they give me something interesting to think about, though. Back on the subject of happiness and feeling important, another thing that I think can make a significant difference is your frame of mind: Someone who thinks more pessimistically may believe anything they accomplish is never good enough no matter how skilled or accomplished they are, or get stuck in the past and on the things they didn't do, whereas someone who thinks more optimistically is more likely to give themselves credit for what they did do, and will generally focus more on how they can influence and improve the present. Luckily, A person's frame of mind is very malleable; optimism and pessimism can be trained, much like a muscle. If you try and look for the good in a situation, it may feel silly or pointless at first, though if you keep it up, it'll eventually start to become a more instinctual and automatic. Focusing more on positive aspects isn't simply a superficial means of boosting your mood, though; our perception also has a lot to do with how we act and follow through on things, so as such, it can also make it easier to see potential opportunities when they arise, along with making it easier to learn from past mistakes. Everyone's going to have some bad situations or tough times in their lives; that much is a given. However, those negative experiences are also a big part of growing and improving as a person; we wouldn't have much reason to change our situation and behavior if everything was perfect, after all. In the end, the past is just that: the past. While it can be helpful to learn from, the "past you" no longer exists, and only has as much bearing on your current personality as you allow it to. The you of the present can be molded however you like, so as such, trying to focus more on the positives and good things in life over the negatives is very likely to make anyone feel happier over time. I should probably note that I'm not saying people should simply push aside the bad things or ignore negative emotions either, since caution and pragmatism are good traits to have. It's more about your general outlook, and keeping everything in perspective: you can still prepare for potential issues or obstacles while expecting a positive outcome, in other words. |
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