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Girl problems...; ...not like bobblyhead's problem
Topic Started: Oct 31 2007, 09:02 AM (262 Views)
Zev
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Ok here's the situation. During BBQ party for this Chinese club I'm in, a group of us went to get some yogurt and boba. When we were introducing each other, I saw this one uber cute girl. Anyway, long story short, I found out she's in one of my classes. Thus began my work.

Weeks later, through sitting with her every day of class and talking to her on facebook, I think the message is no. She doesn't reply to me anymore on facebook and she seems to be avoiding me for three days of class now. Perhaps I was too forceful, I can take a hint, but I'm going to keep on trying.

EDIT: As I was writing this, she finally replied. Perhaps I still have hope. So I'm going to keep working on her, but it might take more time than I thought...

Now, this is where it gets complicated. As some of from IRC might know, I do dance practice for another club from 8 PM to (possibly 4AM). Anyway, after one practice (after the bbq party), I went to go get some boba. After I got my drink, I walked outside and saw this one girl from the dance practice. She said, "come sit with me." So, I was like sure. I acted like I was looking for friendship, but damn (excuse the slur)! Yeah, that was uneventful, but it left a huge impact on me. I was talking to my dating guru roommate about it and he said this happens to guys. Guys apparently always go for more than one. I tried not to face this fact, but it stung. So I was like whatever, I'll probably forget about her. Then I saw her again on Sunday at the same place eating dinner with her friends outside of practice. In commons, I usually try to spot people I know. Now, every time I see a dyed blond, I look for her. At my last practice, I was dancing in front of her row. I kept looking back just to act as if I'm spacing by looking at the feet, but I know I want to look at her. I was talking about my roommate earlier today, he said it's love. >.<

So, the question of my thread is, who should I go for? If any other information is needed, please ask away like what do they look like.

I wanted to make a poll for this.
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and you feel the same about both of them?

EDIT: nvm i'm back
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MillionDaggers
Oct 31 2007, 09:34 AM
and you feel the same about both of them?

It's hard to say...but I'll say I do feel the same for now. I mean I have much more in common with the former which is what I like, but the latter is driving me nuts.
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well with the first girl, you've actually gone out to try and attain her. for the second one it seems pretty fast, and like you said 'she's driving you nuts'. Now I dont know how well you know either of them, but in my opinion the first girl seems like love, the second, infatuation

EDIT: k now i actually gotta go, good luck dude
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Even though we've talked about this, I feel the need to post here because it is a topic that contains asian girls.


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Don't listen to your roommate about the love thing. Love isn't something you stumble on through talking with someone once and seeing them regularly for a short time like you have. Sure, you've got an attraction towards them - they're cute. Love is a bit more complex than that. It's easy to "follow your nose", if you get what I mean.

He's right about the thing regarding guys and women. In my experience its either been no one's interested or every girl (a couple of handfuls, pun intended) wants me.

The worst part about this is you'll never know who you feel more for until you have something with them. I know since coming to college girls are more open to hookups in general than committing to a relationship just because they think you're cute and wanna make out with you; at least most are. There are still some of the clingy types. But I digress.

It's one thing to find a cute girl and talk to her and all that stuff - being in class with her means there are some common interests (unless its one of those first year classes and everybody's gotta take em). The other girl in the dance class has got to have somewhat similar interests because you've got some sort of connection there already (artistic, perhaps - not sure what you'd call it). It's really hard to do something with a girl your dating when she wants to do something that you have no interest in or vice versa. I'm not saying everything needs to line up, but having common interests and being able to talk about something you feel passionately about helps.

There's this really cute girl in my Early Modern Europe class that is really cute and gives me these great smiles. Is she interested in me? Probably not - she's very nice and smiles at everyone. Even if she were interested in me, I know her well enough where I'd have some issues with her were we to date or anything - but she's a great person to know.

I'm the kind of guy that observes people very easily and can pick up on how they are and what kind of mannerisms they may have - a girl I work with in the office here (who flirts way too much to not be interested in me...) asked me if I was psychic when I told her something about herself after meeting her one Wednesday and making the observation a week later. I had been staring her down prior to the statement, so I said "you can tell a lot about a person by looking into their eyes" and she said "I won't look at your eyes anymore, then" and then laughed.

Girls like to enjoy themselves - but one of the best ways for them to think they're having a great time with you is if you listen a lot. That doesn't mean don't talk, but try engaging conversations with these girls and listen and get a feel for who they are (I'm not saying you haven't). Jokes are always good - if you're with a girl that can't laugh at or with you regarding your humor, any time you think of something funny you're going to have to drown the notion. It kinda sucks.

Anyways - hope some of this helps. Girls are crazy. But we like to touch them. So it evens out.
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Yeah in my experience, no girl I liked is ever interested in me. Because of this fact, I have to go with the relationship path rather than the random play. <_<

Most girls seem to be into just hookups rather than relationships as the second girl seems like. The first girl seems like the type for a relationship though.

I have more in common with the first girl. I mean, I kind of like dancing, but I don't plan on joining the dance crew after the dance off (I might though).

Girls are crazy. They like to act nice and it fools guys into thinking they're interested. In most cases, they're just friendly...

Thanks for the advice everyone, it helped.

Right now, I'm going to keep working on the first girl and hope my "infatuation" goes away.

A small update: Today, I finally got the number of the first girl, so I'm feeling better about her.
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Take the second one IMO post pics noa btw
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Cubone's Mother
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You're a male, right? I sure hope so...

:lol:
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Nov 1 2007, 12:37 AM
You're a male, right? I sure hope so...

:lol:

And if you're not, can you let me watch?
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Cubone's Mother
Nov 1 2007, 12:37 AM
You're a male, right? I sure hope so...

:lol:

What's wrong with girls liking other girls?

By the way, I'm not posting the pictures because I respect their privacy. These forums are easily accessible to anybody.
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Zev
Nov 1 2007, 06:22 AM
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Nov 1 2007, 12:37 AM
You're a male, right? I sure hope so...

:lol:

What's wrong with girls liking other girls?

By the way, I'm not posting the pictures because I respect their privacy. These forums are easily accessible to anybody.

Nothing, I was just trying to make people laugh...sorry if I offended you....I actually hate it when people use "gay" as an insult, even though it has nothing to do with what they actually mean....

Again, I apologize if I insulted you :(
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