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| Dyslexia | Oct 2 2013, 07:34 PM Post #36506 |
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| orangedaffodils | Oct 2 2013, 07:44 PM Post #36507 |
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Kitties! ![]() Thanks, Dys. kitties are much needed this stressful week. |
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| Die Zicke | Oct 2 2013, 07:48 PM Post #36508 |
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Orange.... Mama Wendy is gonna be here (well, close to me) tomorrow and I'm going to see her speak (and announce her candidacy for GOVERNOR!)
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| Guest | Oct 2 2013, 07:51 PM Post #36509 |
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IDKW but I keep laughing at Radster posting shit that has been posted a few posts above or in the previous page. Eternal fail.
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| orangedaffodils | Oct 2 2013, 07:53 PM Post #36510 |
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OMFG TAKES LOTS OF PICTURESSSS!!
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| Guest | Oct 2 2013, 08:21 PM Post #36511 |
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Ugh I don't know where else I should say so I'll just write here... For a year and half I feel like I'm losing the will to do everything. Even the most enjoyable things I usually do. My mind is just full of negativity. There is a big, big task in front of me and I feel like I can't do it. It's like there's this voice inside my head telling me that I'm the worst person ever, that whatever I do will never be good nor useful. It's scary, I'm afraid to go outside because I'm afraid I'll run into my friends and ask 'how are you?' Suddenly the world is so scary, I'm afraid to face many people. I feel every single one is making me realize how much of a failure I am. Sleeping and waking up is the worst time. I just want to curl up and die right here and there. I know I'm disappointing many people, but everytime I do something it's like I'm being paralyzed. I can't do this, I just can't. I don't know what to do.... |
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| Taeng | Oct 2 2013, 08:41 PM Post #36512 |
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Honey, I'm sure that you're lovely just the way you are, and I'm sure that people care about you. But you need to talk about this to a professional, s/he'll help you. I know that that sounds useless, but trust me, it works. I'm gonna hug you know
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| Guest | Oct 2 2013, 08:45 PM Post #36513 |
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Is there anything you can think of that triggered these feelings? Was it a sudden change or was the change in your emotional state thru time? Is the voice that says you are the worst person ever really yours or is your mind echoing what some other person once told you? Have their berating become your own? Is this big task you feel you can't do a specific task or are you unable to do tasks in general? I'll tell you this right now anon, the only person you are potentially failing is yourself by allowing these feelings to consume you and not let you live your life. Forget about others for now, its time to focus on your own needs and health. I would recommend you to see a mental health professional, a psychiatrist and psychologist (no, they aren't the same), because the factors involved might be psychological, neurological or both. But congrats anon, this post right here represent the first step towards recovery. The hardest obstacle is to face your situation and voice it out, you have done that anon. Now you need to take more steps, they won't be easy, it will take time but you can do it. Seek out the help of a professional, get to the bottom of your situation and beat it.
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| Windmill | Oct 2 2013, 08:56 PM Post #36514 |
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Whatever I wanted to say has already been said so have a hug, anon.
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| Guest | Oct 2 2013, 09:12 PM Post #36515 |
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Well, I always have problem with my self-esteem. No one really knows though. I got pretty good grades in school, but always, in the back of my mind is telling me that I'm actually not that good/worthy like my other friends. Some days I don't even want to wake up. Even thinking of ending my life. And this task, is my final task in uni. It blown up in my face how incompetent I am. It's cliche isn't it? Running away from my problems. But I...I don't know...my mind is telling me whatever I do, it won't be good, it won't do any good to other. When I sit down to start it, I'm being paralyzed. It's like all the other person's voices and mine is mingling with each other to beat me up and I just want to curl up in the corner. I can't even enjoy my hobby anymore. The hardest part is actually telling my parents. I feel like I'm failing them both. I'm scared. Thank you anon, Taeng, and Windmill. I really need to put what I've been through into words. Sometimes I can't even tell what I'm feeling anymore. Anon, are you a psychologist? |
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| Guest | Oct 2 2013, 09:19 PM Post #36516 |
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If you're still at uni, then your parents don't have to know about you going to see a psychologist or seek counselling. For the UK, the best step is to go first to your registered GP and talk to them- although sometimes they easily dismiss mental health problems. If not, your university should have a counselling service but they are traditionally swamped and may take some time to fit you in. In the mean time, if you feel like you've got nowhere to tell people- because you don't want them to worry, because you are afraid of them judging you, remember that listening lines such as samaritans or your uni's nightline (this is UK specific) are also there to listen to your problems (though they are not allowed to give you advice- they can give you information though). which country are you from, anon? |
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| Taeng | Oct 2 2013, 09:20 PM Post #36517 |
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I really hope that you get a better self-esteem over time, anon. Remember that SGSD will always care about you.
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| Artichoke | Oct 2 2013, 09:23 PM Post #36518 |
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This is very good advice. If you feel like this, then you should try and contact a professional in the field, most likely through a counseling service, and to talk to someone about it. @Anon One thing to keep in mind: Focus on what you can do, not what you can't. If you can't complete a goal, that doesn't matter, as long as you try to work towards completing it. Think about it - Despite the fact that you didn't want to wake up and that these voices are trying to tell you not to, you still managed to do just that. If you can beat them there, who's to say you can't beat them in other things, too, given enough time? |
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| Guest | Oct 2 2013, 09:36 PM Post #36519 |
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Ahh, there's the problem. I live with my parents and I go to local uni. I'm from Indonesia, and that's why this is a problem for me. The support for mental health and counselling are so poor to the point of almost non-existent. I'll have to find out more about it though. My uni has Psychology faculty, I think I can get information from them. @Arti Thank you. Sometimes the negativity really gets to me that I can't even tell what I'm doing anymore. This is a problem that I have to solve, though.
Thank you, thank you all
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| Windmill | Oct 2 2013, 09:37 PM Post #36520 |
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Has anyone seen Valentino's spring collection? Just saw it on television and it took my breath away.
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| Artichoke | Oct 2 2013, 09:49 PM Post #36521 |
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Take things at your own pace. It might feel like it sometimes, but there is no time limit but the one you set yourself. Can I ask if you feel like this all of the time, or if you have periods where your moods are improved? If you ever need someone to talk to, my inbox is open. I also have Skype and Twatter, and I wouldn't mind giving them to you. |
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| Guest | Oct 2 2013, 09:49 PM Post #36522 |
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It seems then anon, that you have always been battling with this voice that challenges your self worth. Unless there was an event (or series of events) that triggered the voice (whether you remember the event or have "forgotten" it by repressing the memories) this could point to a neurological /chemical imbalance. Are you really incompetent? Or are you fully competent but have this boulder dragging you down in the form of this voice, these thoughts and your emotional state? If this task paralyses you then paralyses the task. Go do something else, don't think about it. Seek to empty your mind and when the voices return ask them for proof. The voices are like prosecutors and you the defendant but prosecutors have the task to prove the defendant's guilt, so ask the voices to prove their claims. Silly as it may sound. You aren't failing your parents, if anything they will probably be saddened you didn't come them before. Talk to them frankly, if you think words will fail you or its difficult to explain yourself then write them a letter. Write a letter and then you can give it to them or read it them and then the dialogue can start. I have studies in the field anon but don't have a PhD so no, I am not a professional. Again I would recommend for you to seek the help of mental health professionals, psychologist and psychiatrist. |
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| Rexie | Oct 2 2013, 09:55 PM Post #36523 |
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this is too true unfortunately which city are you from anon? I can say Ive been in your place, perhaps still but the difference is, the trigger is more likely from my surroundings instead of myself. You can always pm me if you wanna talk, with us being Indonesians and whatnot, perhaps it'd be easier for you to explain things this way
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| Guest | Oct 2 2013, 10:17 PM Post #36524 |
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I always feel that there's something wrong, but I can't pinpoint exactly what is it. I can do task normally. I just feel that there's this thing that continue to dragging me down. In the end, sometimes I can't even do to my utmost ability (or maybe I'm the only one feeling like this, it's confusing). That kinda makes sense? I have 'voices' that continue to cut my self-worth, so with zero-ing to do something else, I can prove that their claims are untrue... Thank you for the advice. I find it difficult to have a heart to heart with my parents, but writing letter, I can do that. @Arti Music always improves my mood. Not for long, but it can makes things bearable. Before and after sleeping are always the worst. But even during the day it can get ugly. That's very kind of you. I might register so I can chat sometimes. @Rexie Yeah, it sucks. I'm from Semarang. That regional capital which is often overlooked. Thank you. I'm not registered now, but might be. @All Thank you so so much for your help. I feel a bit lighter now that I let it things out. I'm sorry for writing such a personal problem. But you are all so kind, so thank you once again.
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| Guest | Oct 2 2013, 10:30 PM Post #36525 |
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Hey anon, I volunteer for an organization concerned with mental health- like the listening lines I was talking about before (im the anon asking which country you're from). I'm taught to deal with depressed callers (...and much more horrible things)- unfortunately, I'm not much help over the internet, but within the volunteers (because we also need support and it's hard to listen to these things too) we really like this tumblr and it makes us happy, warm and fuzzy. http://boggletheowl.tumblr.com/ It's just a tumblr but maybe when you feel really down, you can spend twenty minutes looking at it, and hopefully it will make you feel slightly better. |
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| Guest | Oct 2 2013, 10:37 PM Post #36526 |
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oh my god..hahahaha sfajaflkalkdal{faksdkaksd moar!! or if you dun want to just gie me the link |
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| Rexie | Oct 2 2013, 10:49 PM Post #36527 |
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^all good anon and please, dont be sorry ![]() glad you feel a bit better now and feel free to share again next time ![]() -- Im eating samosas at 4 in the morning, BELLEH HERE I COME!!!!
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| Artichoke | Oct 2 2013, 10:55 PM Post #36528 |
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Feel free to. I'm pretty much always here if you want to talk, and you won't ever be interrupting something, so just PM me at your leisure. If you want my Skype/Twattar, just ask, and I'll shoot you that as well. Have you thought about writing down what you think when you're questioning yourself? You can come back and look at it when you feel better and see whether that thought is actually true, and see how rational it actually is when your head is clearer. This way, you can learn to think about whether or not it's actually worth thinking and worrying about, because I guarantee that what seems logical at the time will prove to be ridiculous when you actually look at it. You should also keep a diary of things you've achieved in the day. Like, "today, I managed to get out of bed in the morning", or "today, I managed to go to university". It might not sound like a lot to others, and it might not sound like a lot to you, but if voices are telling you that you can't do anything, then this proves them wrong, doesn't it? Even the so-called "small" things like that can show you that you are stronger than them. |
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| Guest | Oct 2 2013, 11:28 PM Post #36529 |
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Aww the owl is too cute. Thank you anon. It's amazing that you volunteer for that. Listening to all that calls is definitely not easy. It's people like you that help us overcoming our problems despite your own, so @Arti I'm not used to writing journal like that. Won't be easy though. Sometimes I even afraid of seeing my thoughts. Heck writing all previous posts even took a great deal for me. However, I can try. Countering the negativity with positive things will be good for me. Thank you, Arti.
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| Artichoke | Oct 2 2013, 11:34 PM Post #36530 |
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It won't be easy, no, but it's not the succeeding that matters, it's that you try. If you try your best whenever you can, you'll do a little bit more each day, and if you can actually see the proof of what you've achieved, it's easier to convince yourself that you're doing good. Sometimes it takes a while to get there, but the very fact you're trying is more than most people can do. It's not the end goal that matters, or how long it takes to get there - it's the fact you're actually on the journey. Writing those posts must've been hard, but at the end of the day, you did write them, despite the difficulties. You're stronger than you think. Take things piece by piece, there's no rush. |
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| Rexie | Oct 2 2013, 11:45 PM Post #36531 |
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crazy dangerous! https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10200452599619784&set=a.1907406047108.94054.1300504176&type=1&theater |
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| Die Zicke | Oct 2 2013, 11:55 PM Post #36532 |
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Is it a snake? I'm afraid to click... |
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| Yuwree | Oct 2 2013, 11:58 PM Post #36533 |
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It's sadly quite a common thing in regional Australia, I used to live near a section of bushland where all the kids would go ride their motorbikes through the trails and it was pretty much an rule to keep your head down and your helmet level with the top of the bike. If you were lucky the wire would snap from hitting your helmet, if not it'd be placed at tyre height and would often cause pretty dangerous flips : Also rest in peace Mr Clancy |
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| Rexie | Oct 2 2013, 11:59 PM Post #36534 |
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lol Zicke bb, I find your fear for snake pretty endearing ![]() not it's not, it's about a cyclist accident, a terrible one |
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| Die Zicke | Oct 3 2013, 12:00 AM Post #36535 |
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^ I don't like snakes. I kill snakes. But omg his neck! |
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| Dyslexia | Oct 3 2013, 12:03 AM Post #36536 |
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| Rexie | Oct 3 2013, 12:04 AM Post #36537 |
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but why put those wires at the first place, is this some kind of a sick joke or something? it's so fucked up |
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| Dyslexia | Oct 3 2013, 12:09 AM Post #36538 |
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| Rexie | Oct 3 2013, 12:11 AM Post #36539 |
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is this for real? as much as I find this cute, it's pretty disturbing that someone would do this to a cat or any pet in general |
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| Guest | Oct 3 2013, 12:23 AM Post #36540 |
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