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it's more like being friends with someone, and you're so close to her that everybody feels that you're lovers, but you're actually just bff, it's like having a weird friendship or something like that
Oh, I have that with a friend I think. one of her coworkers told us the other week that she loved the "girlmance we have going on" and that it's adorable. :P

And no it's not M =_=
sounds cute :$ I wish we were adorable but we're actually like an old married couple that are so damn close to get divorced, we actually don't even chat like we used to and when I told her that maybe we should just let it go and move on, she gets pissed off and tells me that doing that it's the easiest option. We got a big fight a few years ago and we parted ways for like 7 months, it wasn't a good experience for both of us.
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sounds cute :$ I wish we were adorable but we're actually like an old married couple that are so damn close to get divorced, we actually don't even chat like we used to and when I told her that maybe we should just let it go and move on, she gets pissed off and tells me that doing that it's the easiest option. We got a big fight a few years ago and we parted ways for like 7 months, it wasn't a good experience for both of us.
I've been with my best friend for 13 years now, we're also kinda like an old married couple, it's definitely not romantic. But idk I like our relationship the way it is. I used to have a best guy friend who everyone thought I was dating, turns out he actually wanted us to date, so now I don't have any kind of potentially romantic friendship, although I could really do with a cuddle buddy. ^_^

I feel like even if I go away for a year and we don't get to speak or even if we meet in 20 years time, it'll still feel like we're best friends.
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sounds cute :$ I wish we were adorable but we're actually like an old married couple that are so damn close to get divorced, we actually don't even chat like we used to and when I told her that maybe we should just let it go and move on, she gets pissed off and tells me that doing that it's the easiest option. We got a big fight a few years ago and we parted ways for like 7 months, it wasn't a good experience for both of us.
I've been with my best friend for 13 years now, we're also kinda like an old married couple, it's definitely not romantic. But idk I like our relationship the way it is. I used to have a best guy friend who everyone thought I was dating, turns out he actually wanted us to date, so now I don't have any kind of potentially romantic friendship, although I could really do with a cuddle buddy. ^_^

I feel like even if I go away for a year and we don't get to speak or even if we meet in 20 years time, it'll still feel like we're best friends.
thanks for sharing, it's really helpful for me :$ you say like you'd still feel like you would be best friends even if you don't talk to her, that's awesome, I guess it was like that for me a few years ago but now I guess I changed.

She told me that I was her most serious relationship that she ever had, and I felt like punching her stomach :rofl: cause she has a girlfriend, she's very intelligent when it comes to turn my arguments against me, so I always end up apologising for being such a bad friend.

idk what will happen, but I guess we're doing it wrong :rofl:
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thanks for sharing, it's really helpful for me :$ you say like you'd still feel like you would be best friends even if you don't talk to her, that's awesome, I guess it was like that for me a few years ago but now I guess I changed.

She told me that I was her most serious relationship that she ever had, and I felt like punching her stomach :rofl: cause she has a girlfriend, she's very intelligent when it comes to turn my arguments against me, so I always end up apologising for being such a bad friend.

idk what will happen, but I guess we're doing it wrong :rofl:
Most serious relationship??

My best friend is straight and, besides that, there were never any ~relationship feels between us (so I guess it's not really like yours?). But our other friends tell us that we sound like a lesbian couple whenever we fight while they're in the car.

I'm sure you're not being a bad friend. I've not had a friendship die on me yet, hopefully it won't happen.. I hope you guys sort something out though. Good luck! :)
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What do you guys feel about friends with benefits relationships? I'm getting vibes from this one girl that she want to :hmmm: but i'm not sure, since I'm a virgin.

but i really want experience though... and we share the same kinks :$
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What do you guys feel about friends with benefits relationships? I'm getting vibes from this one girl that she want to :hmmm: but i'm not sure, since I'm a virgin.

but i really want experience though... and we share the same kinks :$
If you want to, go for it. Is there anything putting you off?
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What do you guys feel about friends with benefits relationships? I'm getting vibes from this one girl that she want to :hmmm: but i'm not sure, since I'm a virgin.

but i really want experience though... and we share the same kinks :$
If you want to, go for it. Is there anything putting you off?
Well, just that I'm not sure whether to umm, (okay this sounds old fashioned ^o) ) whether I should save my first for someone I care about, or just take this chance so I can have experience and have fun.
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What do you guys feel about friends with benefits relationships? I'm getting vibes from this one girl that she want to :hmmm: but i'm not sure, since I'm a virgin.

but i really want experience though... and we share the same kinks :$
If you want to, go for it. Is there anything putting you off?
Well, just that I'm not sure whether to umm, (okay this sounds old fashioned ^o) ) whether I should save my first for someone I care about, or just take this chance so I can have experience and have fun.
do what your heart tells you~~

no, really, do what you want and feel comfortable with, there's nothing wrong with waiting or wanting to have fun.
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Well, just that I'm not sure whether to umm, (okay this sounds old fashioned ^o) ) whether I should save my first for someone I care about, or just take this chance so I can have experience and have fun.
It depends on what you want the most. There's nothing wrong with either of those things, so... #YOLO
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Well, just that I'm not sure whether to umm, (okay this sounds old fashioned ^o) ) whether I should save my first for someone I care about, or just take this chance so I can have experience and have fun.
It doesn't need to be someone you care about (but if it is, great! ^_^ ) I think it just needs to be someone who wants to help you explore what you like, respects what you don't like, and makes you feel safe and secure.

That's what I would look for anyway if I wanted to test the waters.
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It doesn't need to be someone you care about (but if it is, great! ^_^ ) I think it just needs to be someone who wants to help you explore what you like, respects what you don't like, and makes you feel safe and secure.

That's what I would look for anyway if I wanted to test the waters.
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Sep 22 2013, 11:41 PM
It depends on what you want the most. There's nothing wrong with either of those things, so... #YOLO
Sep 22 2013, 11:38 PM
do what your heart tells you~~

no, really, do what you want and feel comfortable with, there's nothing wrong with waiting or wanting to have fun.
Thanks for the advice everyone! I really do want to try... I think if she initiates it, I'll just go with the flow.  :teehee:
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What would you classify yourself as if you had to?
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What would you classify yourself as if you had to?
well, i'd go all the way with a woman, but only to kissing at most for a man. so i'm pretty sure i'm a 5 on the kinsey scale–in other words, mostly gay.
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Thanks for the advice everyone! I really do want to try... I think if she initiates it, I'll just go with the flow.  :teehee:
Sure! Wahey. Let us know the results. :gaypimp:
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What would you classify yourself as if you had to?
Pizza-sexual
I've never put much thought into this actually and really, I don't think it makes any difference. I may be attracted to one gender more, but I don't cancel the possibility of dating the other. So maybe some people would describe that as being bi? Well, whatever floats their boat I guess.
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there's this girl on my institute who I always catch looking at me, I know shes's super straight and stuff so that rules out crushing (I wish she was gay, she's so hot)

what does it meaaaan
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there's this girl on my institute who I always catch looking at me, I know shes's super straight and stuff so that rules out crushing (I wish she was gay, she's so hot)

what does it meaaaan
i have the exact same issue! ...and no, i don't know what it means either :fml:
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Hey gays I posted that video of the double Trans couple and it set off some nice discussions; I have some new videos with some interesting questions.



Is there a trans person in this forum? Wish I knew what they thought about this, should trans people be put with the LBG community?
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LBG is sexuality, T is about gender and while they might be present in one individual, from a general standpoint they are essentially mutually exclusive.
Including them makes sense since they deal with basically much the same hate and ignorance, lack of recognition and legal troubles but there's a danger with including every misunderstood gender or pseudo-sexual minority under the LBG/queer umbrella.
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Hey gays I posted that video of the double Trans couple and it set off some nice discussions; I have some new videos with some interesting questions.



Is there a trans person in this forum? Wish I knew what they thought about this, should trans people be put with the LBG community?
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LBG is sexuality, T is about gender and while they might be present in one individual, from a general standpoint they are essentially mutually exclusive.
Including them makes sense since they deal with basically much the same hate and ignorance, lack of recognition and legal troubles but there's a danger with including every misunderstood gender or pseudo-sexual minority under the LBG/queer umbrella.
i think the point she made about having the similar social challenges was a good one and that's why it makes sense to put them under the same network/umbrella of support.

But like someone else mentioned, I wonder if it also harms the movement because it seems to be linked to the gender roles that lgb partly defy and fight against (i say partly because gender roles or gender role assimilation also exists within the community). Since they also are diagnosed by a psychologist before they transition, i guess it can't be simply a matter of society reinforced gender dichotomy, but there must be something else (biological?) as well.

Not trying to be disrespectful or whatever, but sometimes I think of the cross-dressing flamboyant drag-queens on TV, how they all show off their lean legs and high heels and carry the diva attitude about their womanliness. How much of that is perhaps identifying with the other gender and how much of that is you perpetrating very strict gender roles and stereotypes?
Of course, I know that drag queens and cross-dressers absolutely don't equal transsexuals or may not be related at all, but the thought of reinforcing gender roles I think is still linked somehow. Even in the stereotypes of gay men, it's all about them taking very good care of their image in a way thats considered feminine and then all the flamboyant cheerleader attitudes and with lesbians its all about the unshaven smelly butch playing football and whatever. Roles associated with the other gender.


And sligthly unrelated one of my favourite L chat comments was a person who was complaining about people asking 'who was the man in the relationship' and another poster stating that that was the same as going to a vegetarian and asking "so which part of this salad represents the meat?" lol



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Anyone who has been to TLC knows there's a big problem there against bisexuals, if you thought that was just TLC being the cunty hell hole it is, you were wrong.



Since I've heard worse on TLC, these answers didn't surprise me.



Kudos to them for taking comments in stride.

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You would hope that a marginalized community would have some greater degree of acceptance and equality since that is what they want from the general populace but as history has shown that's not the case most times. Minorities can be quite intolerant to even smaller minorities.

I don't really get some lesbian's problems with dating true bisexuals (not bi-curious, not I know I'm queer but I don't know what labels fits me, not I'm a straight girl that enjoys the attention of lesbians), is the image of your woman leaving you for another woman instead of a man really all that much more pleasant? Lesbians seem to be really preoccupied with the bi partner leaving them for a man but they could just as easily leave them for a woman the same way a lesbian partner would. It's like they are expecting it but why would bi's be any less reliable as partners than lesbians? Why is it they act like a bisexual has more of an inclination to leave them, and for a man, than a lesbian partner would for another woman?
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^Because it's more normal, more likely, and more acceptable for a girl to date a guy than it is for a girl to date another girl. Thus, when a lesbian hears another girl is bi, they may assume she is more inclined to men because that is the norm in society.
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Anyone who has been to TLC knows there's a big problem there against bisexuals, if you thought that was just TLC being the cunty hell hole it is, you were wrong.



Since I've heard worse on TLC, these answers didn't surprise me.



Kudos to them for taking comments in stride.

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You would hope that a marginalized community would have some greater degree of acceptance and equality since that is what they want from the general populace but as history has shown that's not the case most times. Minorities can be quite intolerant to even smaller minorities.

I don't really get some lesbian's problems with dating true bisexuals (not bi-curious, not I know I'm queer but I don't know what labels fits me, not I'm a straight girl that enjoys the attention of lesbians), is the image of your woman leaving you for another woman instead of a man really all that much more pleasant? Lesbians seem to be really preoccupied with the bi partner leaving them for a man but they could just as easily leave them for a woman the same way a lesbian partner would. It's like they are expecting it but why would bi's be any less reliable as partners than lesbians? Why is it they act like a bisexual has more of an inclination to leave them, and for a man, than a lesbian partner would for another woman?
It's a mix of fear and cowardice
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Oh gays I think I'm in love again...with a straight girl...who has a boyfriend. :'(

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Oh gays I think I'm in love again...with a straight girl...who has a boyfriend. :'(

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Oh gays I think I'm in love again...with a straight girl...who has a boyfriend. :'(

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run for your life this is never a good thing
I know I know... :(

But I just can't help it. Ever since she became my student-assistent I keep liking her more and more. :$
And she's just super nice, I'm a sucker for genuine nice people.
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Oh gays I think I'm in love again...with a straight girl...who has a boyfriend. :'(

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run for your life this is never a good thing
I know I know... :(

But I just can't help it. Ever since she became my student-assistent I keep liking her more and more. :$
And she's just super nice, I'm a sucker for genuine nice people.
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i feel you, i fall for every girl who is nice to me...and are also like the straighest of the straighest, not even curious or whatever
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Oh gays I think I'm in love again...with a straight girl...who has a boyfriend.

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run for your life this is never a good thing
I know I know... :(

But I just can't help it. Ever since she became my student-assistent I keep liking her more and more. :$
And she's just super nice, I'm a sucker for genuine nice people.
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i feel you, i fall for every girl who is nice to me...and are also like the straighest of the straighest, not even curious or whatever
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omg I thought I was the only one! :O I really can't help it when there's a girl being so nice and gentle. It just makes me want to hug them and say I like you :wub:
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Mhm... I would say you're bisexual, it doesn't matter if what you feel about women is different to what you feel about men, you have feelings for both.

Some people have their sexuality very clear since the beginning but others are late bloomers. Don't worry too much, you'll figure it out if you still have doubts. And if you have to explain it to someone else just tell them what you told us, you don't have to label yourself if you're not sure.
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