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orangedaffodils
Oct 9 2013, 01:15 AM
Today, said girl decided to play "physics footsies" with me during lecture...

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And what's "physics footsies"?
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babycakes
Oct 9 2013, 12:10 AM
Yeah it is fun, and then it can get ridiculous like when a mate texted me to come out to her car for a quickie, it's like lol what even is that?
omfg lol I've not had anything to that level. :rofl:

Oh oh also did you get Skype yet? :$
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Oct 9 2013, 01:17 AM
orangedaffodils
Oct 9 2013, 01:15 AM
Today, said girl decided to play "physics footsies" with me during lecture...

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And what's "physics footsies"?
Oh, just normal footsies but during physics lecture lol :lol:
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Oct 9 2013, 01:34 AM
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Oct 9 2013, 01:17 AM
orangedaffodils
Oct 9 2013, 01:15 AM
Today, said girl decided to play "physics footsies" with me during lecture...

:heh:
And what's "physics footsies"?
Oh, just normal footsies but during physics lecture lol :lol:
Oh, thought it would be some nerdy kind of footsie that I didn't know about. It's nice, did you learn anything during that lecture?
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Oct 9 2013, 01:54 AM
Oh, thought it would be some nerdy kind of footsie that I didn't know about. It's nice, did you learn anything during that lecture?
Nope, I slept for the most part :lol:

She kept poking me to wake me up but I was like, "meh lemme alone"

We're actually doing physics hw together right now... :P
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Oct 9 2013, 01:31 AM
omfg lol I've not had anything to that level. :rofl:

Oh oh also did you get Skype yet? :$
I replied in Chat thread. :)
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Oct 9 2013, 02:11 AM
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Oct 9 2013, 01:54 AM
Oh, thought it would be some nerdy kind of footsie that I didn't know about. It's nice, did you learn anything during that lecture?
Nope, I slept for the most part :lol:

She kept poking me to wake me up but I was like, "meh lemme alone"

We're actually doing physics hw together right now... :P
And I have two exams in 4 hours and some minutes :shootself:
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babycakes
Oct 9 2013, 12:10 AM
Does she know you're gay/was attracted to her though? Because that sounds more torture/teasing than flirtatious fun. I've only ever flirted with people who either think I'm straight or otherwise know that I'm by no means serious.
she eventually found out and stopped it completely, but really tho, that was just pure torture. She's a good friend tho, teasing aside haha
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Oct 9 2013, 06:12 AM
she eventually found out and stopped it completely, but really tho, that was just pure torture. She's a good friend tho, teasing aside haha
Oh well, there ya go. She probably didn't realise it was uncomfortable for you at the time. Girls who knowingly engage in that kind of behaviour just annoy the crap out of me. Update: my friend who recently "found out" I was gay for reals is behaving normally and bringing me much needed coffee. ^_^
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babycakes
Oct 9 2013, 06:17 AM
Oh well, there ya go. She probably didn't realise it was uncomfortable for you at the time. Girls who knowingly engage in that kind of behaviour just annoy the crap out of me. Update: my friend who recently "found out" I was gay for reals is behaving normally and bringing me much needed coffee. ^_^
oh that's good, baby steps but it' a progress hahaha

To be fair tho, she's not this teasy/flirty with her other female friends and by the way I acted she must at least got a small hint. I think Ive mentioned once that girls just like to be flirty with me (lol) and I flirted back, no probs, but what she did was totally different (I didnt say this just because I liked her). It was different, it was constant and the things she said was quite intense. Even my straight friend thought what she did was crossing the "fun" line. Oh well, you live and you learn haha
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Hi everyone, I am new here. But I count on you guys. I am a girl and I like both guys and girls if they are pretty :rofl:
Touchy with girls but more comfortable around guys. I am not a tomboy in other way feminine.
My sexual orientation is still mystery to me. Experts' suggestions please!!! TIA.
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Oct 10 2013, 04:55 PM
Hi everyone, I am new here. But I count on you guys. I am a girl and I like both guys and girls if they are pretty :rofl:
Touchy with girls but more comfortable around guys. I am not a tomboy in other way feminine.
My sexual orientation is still mystery to me. Experts' suggestions please!!! TIA.
imo you're bi leaning towards guys, but in the end you know what you like more if you don't know rn, you'll find out eventually.
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Oct 10 2013, 04:55 PM
Hi everyone, I am new here. But I count on you guys. I am a girl and I like both guys and girls if they are pretty :rofl:
Touchy with girls but more comfortable around guys. I am not a tomboy in other way feminine.
My sexual orientation is still mystery to me. Experts' suggestions please!!! TIA.
Hm.. Either bi leaning to males, or just a bi with no experience with girls and therefore more uncomfortable with them..
You'll work it out
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So there's this lesbo in my class and I think she knows I am too because we were talking about what gay clubs we went to and gay parades and such. And my friend gave me rainbow cookies and I was like "GAY COOKIES! Posted Image"

Anyhoo, recently we've been getting closer and she burps in my ear (I know, totally hot), pushes and pokes me, and we made a family with our iphones and ipods and debated who was the dad LOL

My point is, I don't actually know if I like her that way at all. She's pretty but she's not really my type and I don't want to lead her on too much just in case she likes me or anything. But then again I can't stop myself either. And it'd be even worse if I actually got myself to like her a lot and there was no hope for me. I'm usually good with building a wall with people.
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^Maybe just continue hanging out with her if you enjoy her company (as you would any other friend) and decide what you want to do if/when it gets more serious because it doesn't really sound like at the moment? It's not like you need to make a decision rn, right? Sorry if this isn't helpful, I don't know the feel, I don't like people and if I do, I don't speak to them. B-)
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Oct 15 2013, 01:37 AM
^Maybe just continue hanging out with her if you enjoy her company (as you would any other friend) and decide what you want to do if/when it gets more serious because it doesn't really sound like at the moment? It's not like you need to make a decision rn, right? Sorry if this isn't helpful, I don't know the feel, I don't like people and if I do, I don't speak to them. B-)
I have no choice to hang out with her anyway .. She's in my group :rofl:

But yeah, you're right. I shouldn't be fretting over something so small. I'm just scared of leading people on because I have in the past and .. that was messy


Thank you for helping :sissies:
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Why must I have a crush on a sorority girl! I can't stop thinking about her and it hurts because I can't do anything about it... plus she has a boyfriend :'(
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Oct 15 2013, 08:53 PM
Why must I have a crush on a sorority girl! I can't stop thinking about her and it hurts because I can't do anything about it... plus she has a boyfriend :'(
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Why must I have a crush on a sorority girl! I can't stop thinking about her and it hurts because I can't do anything about it... plus she has a boyfriend :'(
:alright: i know you feel... OTL

it hurts so much...she's just literally everywhere i want to get away from her but can't -sigh-
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there's nothing more shattering than having your parents look at you like you are the worst fucking disappointment in the whole world

why did I even bother hoping they'd understand :shootself:

fuck this. I didn't ask to like girls
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Oct 17 2013, 01:35 PM
there's nothing more shattering than having your parents look at you like you are the worst fucking disappointment in the whole world

why did I even bother hoping they'd understand :shootself:

fuck this. I didn't ask to like girls
Da Shit anon that sucks to hear. Since I am quite bad at giving advice and stuff like that, I just wanted to tell that you're awesome with or without your parents' approval. :hug:

And you never know, maybe you're parents just need some time to process the information.
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there's nothing more shattering than having your parents look at you like you are the worst fucking disappointment in the whole world

why did I even bother hoping they'd understand :shootself:

fuck this. I didn't ask to like girls
Anon, here's a hug. :hug:

Sorry to hear that. Are you an only child? Or are there any other factors that resulted in your parents' reaction? What prompted you to come out to them, if I may ask? Also, where are you from? Does anybody else know about your orientation prior to coming out to your parents, you know, a cousin, sibling, close friend, that may have given you advice or seeked advice from?

Keep in mind, that your parents may need time to digest everything right now. Maybe there were instances before that made you think that they would be able to accept it easily or understand it; some leading questions you asked or conversations you had with them. But, experiencing it upfront, would also be hard on them, they may question themselves and how they raised you and more, say hurtful words to you, it may be a spur of the moment thing or not, still you have to look at where they are coming from. Coming out was not only hard for you, but also to them.

At the end of the day, the most you can do is give them time and space to understand you, and what's more important is that you show them that you are not a disappointment, and your orientation is not a hindrance to your career or studies, and that you can be successful with or without their support.

Stay strong, Anon! In time, everything will be all better. ^_^
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Why must I have a crush on a sorority girl! I can't stop thinking about her and it hurts because I can't do anything about it... plus she has a boyfriend :'(
we're in the same boat :bigcry:
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^ thank you, both of you.

not only child, but oldest child. supposed to be the role model. no one else knows. it was a stupid decision on my part. I've wanted to tell them for a while now and they never seemed to think much of it, when I tried to ask. didn't expect a reaction like this, maybe that's why it's so hurtful. my dad just left halfway through dinner.

I wish I knew what is wrong about being gay. somehow help them to understand it's not.

it's going to be fucking awkward in the morning

i hope it will get better. thank you

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^Second Anon who replied to your original post.

Maybe, that somehow explains their reaction about your coming out. Since you are the eldest, they may be scared that your sibling/s might be influenced because you are supposed to be the role model. What were the reactions of your sibling/s? Did they seem to understand your situation, or are they too young for it?

What happened, is somehow similar to what I said in my first reply, parents, might seem okay with it, when we ask them questions, tell stories about, or watch programs/movies that tackle our issues with them, but when they are put into the same situation, we can't always expect the same reaction from them when they were merely a spectator. Your dad walking out might mean he needed time to think things through, let everything sink in, then slowly deal with it. One of the factors that may contribute to their acceptance or not is the culture, where are you from anon, if I may ask?

As I said before, all you can do is give them time and space, don't push anything on to them for now. (Although, how to best approach them is still up to you, since you know them better.) Just show them that, just because you are gay, doesn't mean you can't do anything, you can't be successful and you can't be a good role model for your sibling/s, because you can be all that and more, Anon. :hug:

And if I haven't said it yet, I'm saying it now, I admire your courage for coming out to your parents. I haven't had the courage to do the same.

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I'm having a crush on a girl 6 years younger than me..what should i do?i can't stop thinking about her :pedobear:
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Oct 18 2013, 08:08 AM
I'm having a crush on a girl 6 years younger than me..what should i do?i can't stop thinking about her :pedobear:
If all parties are of legal age, I don't think it should really matter. Go forth and.. well not procreate but the non-heteronormative equivalent. :gaypimp:

Also, advice!anon, do tell us more (if you want to) I enjoy reading about you guys' experiences.
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Oct 10 2013, 04:55 PM
Hi everyone, I am new here. But I count on you guys. I am a girl and I like both guys and girls if they are pretty :rofl:
Touchy with girls but more comfortable around guys. I am not a tomboy in other way feminine.
My sexual orientation is still mystery to me. Experts' suggestions please!!! TIA.
oh hey.. this sounds like me.. except.. I'm not really comfortable with guys.. lol. And yeah.my sexual orientation.. is forever a mystery. idek.
All I know is, my mum will disown me if I ever hint that I might be gay. OTL she scolds me for having gay friends.. -.-
why can't parents understand? :wall:
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Oct 18 2013, 07:47 AM
advice anon
my younger sister is 16, and she isn't talking to me. avoiding like she doesn't know how to talk to me anymore. we live in Australia, though my family is Chinese. maybe culture did contribute somewhat, but I didn't think it would be like this.

thank you for your encouragement, anon. it really helps knowing that you care when it seems like I've lost the support of family of all people.

take your time with coming out. honestly I wish I hadn't. not yet. I understand it's hard to hide it, but choose the best time to tell them, on your own terms. if you face problems, and I hope you don't, I hope to be there for you as you were for me.
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I'm having a crush on a girl 6 years younger than me..what should i do?i can't stop thinking about her :pedobear:
If she's legal, bang it like a hammer to a nail. If she's not, sit in a dark room and reflect upon your life and your choices.
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Oct 15 2013, 01:07 AM
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Oct 10 2013, 04:55 PM
Hi everyone, I am new here. But I count on you guys. I am a girl and I like both guys and girls if they are pretty :rofl:
Touchy with girls but more comfortable around guys. I am not a tomboy in other way feminine.
My sexual orientation is still mystery to me. Experts' suggestions please!!! TIA.
Hm.. Either bi leaning to males, or just a bi with no experience with girls and therefore more uncomfortable with them..
You'll work it out
I've never tried out things with girls because of the environment that I am living in. I simple holding hands with same gender will earn disgusting looks in Singapore. My parents and relatives will not approve if I date a girl. I have so many worries. Even in the times I got wasted like shit, I still have self control not to do anything with girls. My life sucks :fml:
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@anon above-- :alright:
Though from my limited experience, society's attitude towards homosexuality here is really not that bad. People are way too absorbed in their own little lives to judge a complete stranger's orientation. And if you go to the right places, holding hands with another girl will hardly get you a second look. ;)
And don't worry about labelling yourself too much--just keep yourself open to new experiences and let nature take its course. Like sicachu said, you'll work it out eventually. :hug:
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someone posted in k-lesbian site...
she said she met a lot of lesbians in Korea but It's so difficult to meet other lesbians in melbourne she went to lesbian bar but there are just 40~50 years old lesbians...
I want to go to there for study someday so, I wonder how do you guys meet each other? except bar or club...I mean... is there community site?
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Oct 19 2013, 04:23 PM
someone posted in k-lesbian site...
she said she met a lot of lesbians in Korea but It's so difficult to meet other lesbians in melbourne she went to lesbian bar but there are just 40~50 years old lesbians...
I want to go to there for study someday so, I wonder how do you guys meet each other? except bar or club...I mean... is there community site?
Nope, just hit-n-miss. :lol: (On the upside, if you miss, the girl will probably just take it as a compliment.)

Really, I didn't know any gays until I joined softball team. I guess it's the opposite of SK: it's hard to meet people but easy to date them (like openly, literally no one will care, esp. if you've got no connections here). Although you could join the LGBTQ club at your university but I don't have any experience with that, I hear there is a lot of spooning.

Idk about the quality of education but it's not a bad place to visit. ^_^
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Oct 19 2013, 04:44 PM
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Oct 19 2013, 04:23 PM
someone posted in k-lesbian site...
she said she met a lot of lesbians in Korea but It's so difficult to meet other lesbians in melbourne she went to lesbian bar but there are just 40~50 years old lesbians...
I want to go to there for study someday so, I wonder how do you guys meet each other? except bar or club...I mean... is there community site?
Nope, just hit-n-miss. :lol: (On the upside, if you miss, the girl will probably just take it as a compliment.)

Really, I didn't know any gays until I joined softball team. I guess it's the opposite of SK: it's hard to meet people but easy to date them (like openly, literally no one will care, esp. if you've got no connections here). Although you could join the LGBTQ club at your university but I don't have any experience with that, I hear there is a lot of spooning.

Idk about the quality of education but it's not a bad place to visit. ^_^
I had a bad experience with LGBTQ club in university.......full of butch girls who only think about sex.... :wall:

I just want language study. I can't speak English at all :lol: . so I think It's better to study in English speaking country for studying speaking

or go to canada... It seems there is canada Korean lesbian community :thumbsup:
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